AIBU asking my husband for help?!

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I have a lot going on…EBF a 4 month old and also have 3 yo at home and older children at school. I’m busy non-stop and I feel like I don’t get any time to myself really. We don’t have any family nearby to help with the children and 2 of our children have some extra needs (1 is non-verbal with significant needs). I’m on maternity leave atm. My husband works 50hours a week, so he is understandably tired. However, since I’ve had the baby, I do everything, all cleaning, all cooking, all washing, all nappy changes, all night feeds, all shopping, bills, organising etc. I’ve recently asked my husband for help with some of the household things as I’m feeling overwhelmed and like I do everything. He says he won’t take on anything until I go back to work and if I do want to give over some of the household stuff then I should go back to work. When I said he could clean up after himself or at least do some household tasks he is irritated and angry. We’ve ended the conversation with me asking what he would do if I just stopped doing everything for him and him responding be saying that he’ll keep his wages separate then.
Should I just be doing everything because I’m on maternity leave?

This is really sad, what an awful man. He is willing to see you hit breaking point and not help with anything. If a friend was on thier knees I would do anything to help them, but you H can't be arsed to help you I would seriously consider leaving him, as he's a pig

He needs a kick up the backside.
No! In the balls.

OP, he’s a cunt. He doesn’t give a shit about you, your mental health, your workload, or the children. That’s the long and short of it.

You should tell him that you will also work 50 hours a week!

Also tell him, that you didnt force him to have these children, so he can jolly well step up and do his fair share.

And get a cleaner if you can afford one!

I'm on maternity leave at the moment and we agreed that means from 9-5 Monday to Friday I take on the childcare and whatever household stuff i can get done. Outside of those hours, we are both responsible for childcare and household chores. You're his wife, not his maid and nanny and chef and cleaner.