Morning,
Just after a bit of advice really my son started secondary school September and only moved there with two friends who I would of considered to be his best friends from primary school. Recently he has had issues with these two friends who make fun of him and apparently they do stuff to each over like push each other in bushes etc but when he does it back they turn on him. When my son gets angry they always use the line we are only joking why you getting so angry for. They make fun of silly things like the way he runs his hair etc. Since starting secondary school he seems a bit down. It all came to head the other day when my son broke one of the other boys phones. One of the boys was taking pictures of him and then putting filters on it and sending them to people and putting them on snap chat. I found out he had broke the screen as I regularly check my sons phone. I asked my son about it and he ended up in tears saying that they do things like kick his bag push him over on the way home and make fun of him that he got angry after the boy had taken pictures of him and he pushed his phone away and it fell and broke. I contacted the parent of the other boy (not the one who’s phone broke) to find out what had happened and she said yes what her son said too but apparently my son has been saying and doing mean things too to her son. I don’t have rose tinted glasses I am well aware that my son is not totally innocent and feel that the situation is more than likely all of them being unkind. The thing is it seems to be the two of them against him a lot and he says he says unkind things in retaliation. I’ve tried telling him to ignore them to laugh at himself a bit more and try not to be so angry about stuff. He says if I do that they will just think I am a push over and do it more. I also made him apologies to the boy for breaking his phone screen and offered to pay for it but the parent declined my offer. Yesterday my son was 2 mins late to meet them and they left without him. I just dropped him to school thankfully so he isn’t have to walk on his own he says it doesn’t make sense when the others are a bit late we wait for them. I guess I am just not sure how to deal with the situation do I just leave it in hope it works it’s self out or should I contact the parents of the boys. I know the mums have done for the last 7 years or will it make it worse.