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7 and a half months, super clingy, wont be put down, for sleep, pram, car, etc. HELP!!!

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pevie · 16/12/2007 20:35

My 7 month old daughter has been unsettled from the beginning, not sleeping well and being very windy, sore, etc. Drs have said reflux and has medication. In general symptoms have got better and she is sleeping a little better at night, usually only getting up two or three times now. However, days have become a total nightmare now. She wont let me put her down much at all, gets hysterical if I leave room for a second, if shes in somone elses arms will only settle if I'm not there. Whenever I come back into room, will scream for me. That has been a pain, but worst thing has been that for last week she wont let me put her down in pram or car at all. She mostly sleeps in pram or car in day so that has been a disaster. Have tried letting her scream it out in pram as she can still see I'm there after all, but its so hard!! Occasionally if I get her down really calm and sing to her she will stay calm but bit hit or miss. Its v.difficult as have older daughter and very stressful for her too!!!

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pevie · 16/12/2007 21:54

Forgot to say, any advice, etc.greatly appreciated. Another set back tonight, has been up several times already and of course, wont accept anyone going to her but me. Tried to have night out on Friday, had to come home early cos went mental with DH!!! Am bf, but trying hard to only do it twice in the night as dont want to be up all night feeding!!!! Sorry if big fat rant, but so PO!!!!!!

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pevie · 18/12/2007 19:45

Guess this is busy time of year and maybe not a problem anyone else experiencing right now, but if you are and you've found any great techniques, please let me know!!!! Has got a little better, used different pram and sing to her right away so that she doesnt scream too much!!!

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KbearingGiftsWeTraverseAfar · 18/12/2007 19:47

This the classic time that they get clingy IME. It was the week before I went back to work and DD and DS suddenly wouldn't let me out of their sight. Was traumatic all round but it didn't last!

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CarGirl · 18/12/2007 19:50

One of mine had acid reflux it was not a pleasant experience meds helped as did cranial osteopathy. Could it be possible that as well as seperation anxiety is kicking in she is actually sickening for something?

I missed dd2 having the worst ear infection ever as she also had chicken pox - 3 days of no sleep later we were admitted to hospital and someone finally checked her ears......

gingerninja · 18/12/2007 19:56

I'd say invest in a sling. That way you don't have to put her down and you have hands free to see to DD1. She will probably sleep in the sling. My DD has always been like this. A sling has saved my sainty in the day and co-sleeping at night enabled me to get more sleep as I wasn't having to physically get up.

You could get a sling that suits back and front carries which would make it even easier. I've done the cooking, gardening everything with DD on my back because she'd scream blue murder if I put her down.

I've noticed that she's also worse when ill or teething. Could your DD be teething? Agree, sep anxiety sets in about now tho.

TinselHockey · 18/12/2007 19:58

I'm sorry but it really is just a phase. I bought an ergo which really helped.

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 18/12/2007 20:06

I really don't think there is anything you can do about it tbh. She doesn't have the ability to understand that you are coming back. So I would suggest just go with it until things change.

blueshoes · 18/12/2007 20:22

Hi pevie, it must be very hard on you.

My dd got separation anxiety from 5 months, It is earlier than the books say, but she behaved exactly like you described.

My dd was difficult from birth, like your dd, but with separation anxiety became almost impossible.

The mechanical swing worked for dd for a few weeks but at 7 mths, your dd might be too big for it. Try to borrow one if you can, although if she won't go in a pram or car, not likely she will go in a swing.

What I did notice was that when dd/ds got older, they would not go in a buggy/carseat for long times before getting fussy. The key was to take them out around naptime, and not at others. Does your dd fuss the second you put her in, or only after, say, 10 minutes?

Second the sling. But my dcs would only go in for around 10 minutes before fussing to get out. At least they were calm for those 10 minutes.

Have you read Dr Sears book If your dd has these traits, I found the book really helped me to accept the 'high need' baby that both my dcs were.

Whilst googling Sears, I also found his tips for soothing babies: here

miniegg · 18/12/2007 23:09

no advice really, just wanted to send sympathy as that sounds incredibly wearing.
i'm not sure about the sling - my baby is 5 months now and I find him too heavy to carry around that way for long. unless you are pretty big and tough it may do your back in!
really hope it gets better. have you tried to impose a routine? Probably impossible, I know...

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