4 year old son’s concerns on behaviour

[Countrylifemama]

Hi

My son who turned 4 in sept started the school nursery few months ago.. he is going there 2 days and his private nursery the other 2. We recently had a parents consultation and that particular day I was told he was quite challenging.

During the consultation we were told he seems happy, is active little boy and sociable but can get swept up and gets himself involved with the more boisterous boys… he isn’t initiating the challenging or poor behaviour but have been told he’s very impressionable. So sees some kids doing something I.e kicking toys and started doing it himself.

He doesn’t behave like this at school or his private nursery. The nursery teacher was telling me he needs to make more positive choices and the children he gravtiates too aren’t good influences.

I’m struggling to know what and how to help; nursery teacher advised on play dates with a few kids that he thinks would be a good for him but apart from that I’m worried that he is causing disruption and other parents will think bad of my son

Any advice as I’m really stressing out and losing sleep over it

Thank you x

Sorry I’m not clear where he is displaying these behaviours, school, or nursery?

My DS is/was like this, and always has been drawn to the “naughty” children. One of his closest friends is a handful and he definitely copies some bad behaviour, although he would never copy violence.

Sorry did a typo
; he is displaying these behaviours in the school nursery.

I don’t know what to do as he keeps talking about one particular child who seems to cause a lot of trouble and calls him his best friend but he isn’t a good influence

Talk to your son. Simple terms he will understand. Talk about why the behaviours he has been displaying are not correct, about how he should behave, about how it impacts on the class etc.

Nothing too heavy, he is only 4 and some naughtiness surely is to be expected (and allowed, he's a child). But now is a chance to teach him him about making good choices.