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What age do kids start to get easier?

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sunsandwaves · 28/11/2021 08:41

I have a 2 year old and a newborn ( wasn't planned) I know im in for years of difficulty but what age would you say you left like things started to not be so stressful

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Findahouse21 · 28/11/2021 08:43

Dd will be 2 in a couple of weeks and I think she is much easier now than, even 2 or 3 months ago. Older dd has been a dream since about 3 and a half.

CantKeepSecrets · 28/11/2021 08:52
  1. Started getting easier about 2.5 but at 3 he had fully grasped speech all of a sudden (speech delayed and could only say 1 word up until this point) was fully day and night potty trained and started sleeping through the night which in turn gave us a lot more patience as parents which made the difficult parts feel easier.

We had DC2 when he was 2 so there was a bit when everyday just felt like chaos but we got there and found our feet with fitting him into his brothers routines etc when DC2 was somewhere around 6-8months.

You'll get there , it's not easy having 2 very small children even those who make it look ridiculously easy struggle massively.

BertieBotts · 28/11/2021 08:54

I think about 4/5 sorry!

But everyone's experience is different. I found 2 really easy and my kids were nightmare at 3. Other people have troublesome 2 year olds and 3 is an improvement.

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Peanutmnm · 28/11/2021 08:54
  1. At 3 they gets bit easier, in that you don't have to be on high alert ALL the time, and they develop the concentration to sit and watch TV for longer periods, but 4 is a turning point.

It really depends a bit on the child's personality and a LOT on how you foster independence in them how easy they become how fast.

BigWoollyJumpers · 28/11/2021 08:58

I found baby and toddler years easy. Teenage years have been way more stressful. It gets better when they leave home 😂

Arethechildreninbedyet · 28/11/2021 08:59

About three in our case. It began at about 2 1/2.

Could communicate more.
Could be left alone in front of the telly do so some jobs around the house.
Could play independently.
Could understand the concept of bedtime.
Could understand simple commands (lol they sound like a dog).
Became potty trained.
Began sleeping through the night more.

They get easier. Hang in there, very often it can simply happen overnight!

SufferingJet · 28/11/2021 09:01

I definitely won’t tell you about how we yearn for the difficulties of those early years notes that ours are both in secondary.

But really, you are going through a very intensive stage and it will pass much sooner than it feels possible right now. Every month we’ll bring tiny shifts and will ease your current pressures. Then when your eldest is in primary you’ll feel an even bigger easing up hopefully.

LoveComesQuickly · 28/11/2021 09:02

I had three under four. Things started getting significantly easier when the youngest turned 3yo, and even more when he turned 5yo.

Jabbawasarollingstone · 28/11/2021 09:02

It depends on the parent and the child.

I found years 0-5 the worst. The teen years have been a breeze.

But friends who are parents have found teen years hell.

firstimemamma · 28/11/2021 09:03

Our 3 year old is a breeze but we'll have another in a few months so back to the newborn stage for us again soon!

OinkPinkPonk · 28/11/2021 09:04

My DC is only 3 so can't speak for later years but I found 2.5 it started getting easier.
Newborn I found 6 months easier.

MrsTophamHat · 28/11/2021 09:05

I agree with around 3. My son is 4 now and I find him much much easier now. He takes himself to the toilet, he can play in another room without being constantly watched, he understands reasoning, he can tell me when something is wrong.

My daughter is 1 so i've got about 1.5 years left of 6 years' constant vigilance!

FingersofFish · 28/11/2021 09:07

When my youngest was about 5 there was a significant leap in terms of independence but the start of full time schooling also made a massive difference to the mental load. Mine are 6 and 7 now and I couldn't go back to the younger years, this is much easier. I'm told teens get harder again so I've embraced some post grad studying this Sept go try and complete before then!

Classicblunder · 28/11/2021 09:08

Similar age gap for us. I found (sorry) that the real low point was when the baby was mobile but the 2 year old still needed a lot of attention. I think it got better when they could play together (3 and 1) then briefly worse again when the 4 year old wanted to do quiet things the 2 year old kept disrupting but on balance it has been getting gradually easier

Samanabanana · 28/11/2021 09:08

Once your youngest gets to three you're home and dry! This is the dark before the dawn but every day it gets easier and one day it will all of a sudden seem effortless. Hang in there!

hidinginquote · 28/11/2021 09:15

When youngest is 3.5/4 depending on how that child is with speech/ability to dress things like that. My youngest has a speech delay and is 4 and have only started to find it significantly easier over this last year ish

ThirdElephant · 28/11/2021 09:19

I saw this a while back. Holding out for those three perfect days.

What age do kids start to get easier?
TheOrigRights · 28/11/2021 09:24

22? Grin

Simonjt · 28/11/2021 09:42

About five here (sorry!), hes six now and his behaviour is generally reliable and he can entertain himself quite well, he has been playing independently and sensibly since 7:30, bliss.

Frazzled2207 · 28/11/2021 09:45

Mine were 20m apart so I had a newborn and an under 2. It was really hard work I won’t lie.

For me it got a lot easier when they were 5 and 3- that was when both were finally sleeping through the night. I think I was quite unlucky in that respect though.

They’re now 8 and 6 and like two peas in a pod. Like you we didn’t plan a small age gap but I’m now very happy at the way things have turned out

LucyLocketsPocket · 28/11/2021 09:45

When they start school.

Cait73 · 28/11/2021 10:06

I hear you, we're 3 in 3 weeks and I can't say things get easier, just different every age/stage brings its own trials and tribulations so some things are easier but some things are definitely harder

Insert1x20p · 28/11/2021 10:07

I think 4-10 is the sweet spot. Then it gets tough again.

Chocolatetrifle · 28/11/2021 10:11

Totally agree with Classicblunder, I have a just turned 4 year old and another boy who will be 2 next week. Oldest is a lot easier since turning 4, now my toddler is the one who is most difficult. It was a bit easier until he became more demanding. Was easier initially until youngest started walking but oldest still needed to be watched all the time, couldn't leave them together even to pop to the loo.

Driposaurus · 28/11/2021 10:13

Just short of 2 I realised they were significantly easier than they had been. Not, definitely not, easy, but when the drudge is outweighed by the fun. Just as the easy becomes really enjoyable they're off to school.

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