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Getting all too much

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HR313 · 27/11/2021 19:46

My DD1 who is 4.5yrs started reception in September (a week after she started her baby sister arrived) - DD2 now 11 weeks old. On the whole my DD1 has been good with her bar the occasional time when she tries to leap on us both. However, I noticed that my DD1 has been struggling with simple number recognition so highlighted with her teacher. The teacher said she had noticed the same and was keeping an eye on her and she also has issue with blending words when it comes to phonics. She said she appears fine with everything else but it might be an indicator for dyslexia but she didn’t think it was. If she still can’t pick up the pace after xmas they will get the SENco involved at school. I don’t have a problem with this but it’s making me feel really down that I have a child that’s clearly struggling without even realising. The teacher said she wasn’t the ‘only’ one but I feel like I’ve failed her somehow as she always seemed fairly bright in my eyes, but clearly not. Her behaviour has been erratic at times and I’m really not enjoying my eldest daughter at the moment. She whines, moans and has started shouting especially at her dad and won’t listen to us. I’m feeling fed up with the whole school situation and her behaviour it just feels like one thing after the other. My 11 week old on the other hand is just a dream and it’s making me feel guilty for suddenly feeling so resentful towards my eldest - subconsciously I reckon she’s picking up on my feelings which I’m trying not to show. Like for example, today I took her to the cinema without her baby sister and for some lunch but this evening she’s played up and not listened to us again. Just don’t know what I’m asking but want to know I’m not the only one going through this 😞

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FrostyFingle · 27/11/2021 20:02

What you are describing sounds pretty normal for a child who has just started school. In other countries they wouldn’t be in formal education at this age so try not to worry about her ‘not being bright’. Children all learn at different rates and she will get to where she needs to be in her own time.
It’s also good that school are talking about SENCo support, it means they are keeping an eye on her and will support her if she needs it.
If she does have additional needs (which is by not certain at this point) it won’t be because of anything you did or didn’t do. Every child is different and I’m sure you wouldn’t judge another parent if their child needed support?

chocolatesweets · 28/11/2021 11:40

You've just had a baby. I think you need to relax. Your daughter might have problems at school but she's only just started school. And it's winter. Just relax and let things settle down. Enjoy your baby and don't feel guilty. Little babies are easier than kids. They sleep most of the time and don't move. Congratulations also.

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