Feeling really unhappy

[SharonR88]

Hi All

Just looking for a bit of advise please

I have 3 beautiful boys but I'm unhappy with my marriage. I have been for a while I love my husband but I'm not in love with him.

I've been working from home for the past few years due to covid it's been difficult not having much adult interaction. He works evenings and weekends and has done ever since we met but I now feel we hardly saw and spend time together and now I don't feel happy being with him we are not intimate with each other and that's mainly me. I don't look at him and think I want to rip your clothes off or be intimate with you.

Do I stay for the sake of the kids or leave and it will be hard trying to manage 3 kids and working etc....

Any advise please

Thanks

You can't stay "for the kids" if you're truly unhappy. You can't make yourself unhappy to avoid the disruption of divorce.

But, could circumstances change, like your working situation or maybe just more effort put in from your dh to help? But if he isn't ever initiating intimacy and you aren't feeling it anymore, he'd really need to want to put the work in.

I would try to make it work. You have so much together! Sometimes you need to have sex to want to have sex. Sounds like you’ve got out of the habit of being with him in a romantic way and intimately. I go through phases with m not wanting sex but then when I do I think oh actually my husband is quite sexy 🤩