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5 year old behaviour

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Calon79 · 25/11/2021 03:28

Hi! In the last few months my DS has started attending new activities after school / weekend e.g. football / tennis. We moved towns this summer – doing these activities is really important to help him intergrate and form friendships outside and inside school. The issue is that 1. He doesn't listen to the coaches like (most) of the other children do and 2. provokes the other kids... e.g. if in a line he will start kicking the shoes of the child in front of him or turn round and pull an angry face at a child that has done nothing to him. He really is a sweet boy but strong willed. I've told him that this behaviour is not acceptable and that to make friends we have to be nice to one another but it doesn't seem to sink in. He clearly misses his BF from his previous school and no one seems to be matching up to him. Help!

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Twounderfive83 · 25/11/2021 13:26

Hi there.

My Ds is also 5 and I’ve noticed the exact same thing at clubs, with the not listening element. He doesn’t provoke other kids, but he is also quite disruptive at school - it’s all low level stuff like shouting silly things, at certain times, such as carpet time, he’s fine when doing proper work at tables.

To be honest with you I suspect my DS is neurodiverse, although I have no idea what his struggles might be (leaning towards ADHD at the moment but he doesn’t tick all of the boxes for anything!).

How is your DS at school? Does he have friends? Mine does, and plays fine on the playground, but it’s in a whole class setting he can be disruptive.

MeltedButter · 25/11/2021 13:29

It could just be an adjustment period. I would lower my expectations of him in all areas of his life for the next few months while he settles in.

Can you arrange a few one to one play dates for him? It might be easier for him to make friends that way.

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