Completely fed up of my child's father!! Advice please

[mumtobee22]

My baby is 3 Months old and has started recently seeing his father. This is his 3rd week coming to see him. He comes down every Sunday once a week for an hour. He told me he wasn't going to go out Saturday nights as he wanted to keep his Sundays fresh and free from hangovers. He came into my house on Sunday completely hungover , said he was out until half 2 and was dying. Now he told me he wasn't going to go out Saturday nights anymore to stay fresh for the child. His friend told me he was also taking drugs and is going out again this Saturday night. He asked me to take a photo on his phone and I seen a picture of him with 2 girls on it from Saturday night and him trying to kiss one of them. He is sex mad and absolutely obsessed with sex. He cares more about them girls that he does about his son. He has handed absolutely no money into my house towards his son. Has not once asked does he need anything. Cares more about drugs and partying and girls. He has not at all bonded with him i suppose it's early days but all he seems to be worried about is partying. He has not once stepped up to his responsibilities. What do I do show him the road??!

Who is the initiator of him coming over? You? I'd stop. If him, ask him to come sober and appropriate.

Ask him to provide CMS if not talk to the authorities about this. It's his child too, and kids get more expensive with age.

I saw a poster say once the most important choice you can make in life is who you pick to impregnate you. It impacts every aspect of your life and the kids life, from then on, as you’re now seeing, sadly.
Get him paying for his child through CMS, obviously, don’t initiate contact, keep a log of dates and what state he’s in, for when this ends up going to court.

(Also, you shouldn’t have him in your house. Though your kid is still very young and needs to be pretty close to you when the druggie is having his pathetic one hour of contact)

He doesn't pay for anything.
He sees your child for an hour, once a week.
He's hungover when he arrives.
He likes to go clubbing/looking for women/taking drugs.

Fuck him off, he's neither use nor bloody ornament. You and your son are gaining absolutely nothing from this waster.

Get him paying for his child through CMS, obviously, don’t initiate contact, keep a log of dates and what state he’s in, for when this ends up going to court.
The only advice you need.

For whose benefit is he visiting the baby? Have you asked him to contribute, is he earning?

Firstly get financial support from him established, if he isn't willing to do it get help to make him.
If he is asking to come he needs to sort his shit out and not go crazy the night before a visit, suggest a change of day. If you are the one suggesting he comes, don't bother! His half arsed attempts to be present are not worth you pushing for.