Step siblings and boundaries

[Hdksla133]

I just would like to hear your opinions on Step siblings / siblings and boundaries. I have a two week baby and DSS age 15. He asked if he could bath her and I didn't like the idea of this mainly as I'm just getting used to it myself, so I said he could help. He happened to not be around when I bathed her early morning before visitors were due. But afterwards, it got me thinking, I don't really want him changing her nappies and bathing her. Am I right to feel like this. DSS is high functioning autistic so as to not drip feed. I'm really trying to make him feel included.

I don't think boundaries is the right way to think about it. The only questions should be can he safely do that task and does he want to? If yes to both (either supervised or unsupervised) why would you refuse?

My ds 11 changes his half siblings nappies. He loves it and gets involved in all care.

I can't imagine many 15 year old lads asking to bathe or change a nappy.

Has he asked to do anything else? Feed her / put her in a bouncer etc?!! / Hold her or just the above?

If you can pass on these life skills in to your DSS you'd be doing a really good job iMHO.

@cormorantes

I don't think boundaries is the right way to think about it. The only questions should be can he safely do that task and does he want to? If yes to both (either supervised or unsupervised) why would you refuse?

I think its also important to ask if OP is comfortable with it or not. After all they are the parent here.