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Effects of domestic abuse and my daughter

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Sonsofanklery · 18/11/2021 22:26

I've posted lots of times before but name changed.
DD and I fled domestic abuse last year, it was very awful domestic abuse where I was subjected to physical abuse that have left physical scars on my body, emotional and psychological abuse. DD witnessed and heard a lot of it. DD has always recollected her father shouting and screaming, when we first left she would flinch at the slightest noise, there was an incident at her nursery where the fire alarm went off and she was inconsolable and ran into a corner and trembled.
We're part way through family court proceedings, this is the second time that interim contact has broken down due to her father's harassing and stalking behaviour.
This week, I met with social care, health visitor and nursery.. All of which unanimously agreed that she needs trauma therapy :( I'm so lost as to how to help her.. She remembers a lot and projects her feelings onto me, her peers and nursery staff, she's lashed out at nursery a lot.
I've tried to seek play therapy for her, however have been told consistently as she was still seeing her father at the contact centre they cannot intervene.. They would only intervene after she had stopped seeing him. There is such limited resources for a child of her age to deal with trauma. I'm being taken back to court at the end of the month for enforcement action for reasons listed on my other thread...but I so desperately want to help her. Its heartbreaking, I am at such a loss what to do.

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Funauntienowmummytobe · 19/11/2021 21:38

I don't have any advice but want to say that you have done so well to get out! My sister suffered domestic violence and got out when her daughter was 4 months old.

Good luck to you both, I hope you get the help you both need!

Santaischeckinglists · 19/11/2021 21:40

Play therapy with a psychotherapist may be helpful. Your GP can refer you.

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