Sorry if this is in the wrong place.
My son is 5 and in P1 (Scotland)- he settled in well to primary 1 and loved nursery but in the past few weeks he's been screaming going into school (mainly when I take him, he's fine with dad. The teacher said on wednesday that he's been crying in school when he doesn't get picked for things.
Today we were up early, had a good morning but he had a tantrum going into his car seat and at school had a massive screaming fit. Eventually had his old nursery teacher and 3 other teachers who took him in screaming- senior teacher asked me if anything had happened in the morning and I said no until carseat and that he wasn't tired.
At pick up she took me aside and said he'd took a long time to calm and then she got a call from the class teacher to say he'd been throwing things and crying again. I said I don't know what's going on and i'ts not like him and asked if he was ok in class normally. She again asked what had happened in the morning and made a comment about different famillies- it definitely felt weird and like she was implying something. I said he said school is boring and hates sitting on the carpet. He is playstation mad but we've not being allowing it (screentime was creeping up with me working from home but we've cut it back).
In the car my older daughter told me she'd been called into the office and asked what had happened in the morning and if everything was ok.
I'm upset that the implication is that theres a problem at home rather than school transition and feel judged- with three children, working full time from home and partners long hours things are busy and hectic but my children are loved.
I think I want to speak to someone but i'm shy and akward - any advice- Should I speak to the head or class teacher? How should I approach it without seeming defensive?
I was promised my son would have a soft start with a strong focus on play because he struggles with concentration but his teacher changed and I suspect he's getting into trouble- he's very very sensitive and soft but full of energy..
(finally it probably doesn't help he currently has a slight black eye from a massive fall :( )