Mum guilt- will it get better?

[peanutandpumkin]

Hello,

After almost 5yrs of break, I am going to back to work(new job) from Jan22. My DS(4) is at school,DD(22month) will go to nursery full time. Kids are very in their setting only difference is DD will be going full 5 days a week. DH and me are working from home so we are here full time if they need us. Everything handled equally between us. I am happy to finally go back to work and excited but at the same I feel this anxiety and guilt that I am sending my girl 5 full days to nursery 😞. With DS, we are always put about in the park when he doesn't have nursery so his younger years were spent in a good balance. With DD I feel terrible guilt. I am sure she'll love it over at nursery she enjoys it.

Will this feeling get better? I suppose since we are both at home and not commuting its much better to be nearer to them but I still feel this 😔

Unfortunately nope. We feel guilt for anything and everything. My boys are teens and I still beat myself over everything. Whatever you do you will question it but trust me you are doing great and that’s all you can do. Xx

Nope.

I don’t know about the mum guilt but 22 months is not teenie even if she is your little baby girl- I had a meeting at a nursery today and some of the kiddies are much younger - obviously they’re not all identical but I do think you’re being hard on yourself and I’m sure she will enjoy the fun at nursery. The kids were having a riot today & it was a really happy atmosphere. You’d think they were at a birthday party xox

Nah, mate, Mum guilt is just one of those things, I'm afraid. It'll be there whatever you do, whatever choice you make. It's inescapable.

Thank you all for your support and honesty x

At least I know I am not that crazy and its common. It does make me feel better that someone can definitely relate.

Yes she is very happy I can tell and they seem to have something or other going on at nursery so I know this is all me and not the kids 🙈 I can take comfort in that they are having fun and I can finally have a coffee thats still warm

Thank you x