Why don't parents RSVP?

[Dalooah]

Been over a week that we handed out invites to DCs party- at the not too early not too late stage, 3 weeks ahead, but only heard back from 6 parents.

Surely it's not that hard to say, yes DC will come/won't come/can I let you know next week?

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They either forget or they wait to see if there's any better offers for that day! Some will say they're coming and not turn up. Others won't say anything and turn up!

I’m in the same boat party on the 4th Dec and out of 26 I’ve had 16 yes so that will do so if the rest don’t want to come don’t as far as I’m concerned I’ve over invited anyway (probably back fire 😂)

@Sweetpea84

I’m in the same boat party on the 4th Dec and out of 26 I’ve had 16 yes so that will do so if the rest don’t want to come don’t as far as I’m concerned I’ve over invited anyway (probably back fire 😂)

Ours is the same day! You've had a much better response. Only got 11/30 but that's what I'm going with!

I sent out invites a month ago and 5 didn’t reply, not even when they were chased. It is so rude.

I used to hate this. Forever having to chase people.

Rude and beyond my comprehension!! My children are in their 20s and can honestly say that parents were more polite and considerate!

Welcome to the world of parenting. I'm so glad the class party days are behind me. It was so annoying!

@amsadandconfused

Rude and beyond my comprehension!! My children are in their 20s and can honestly say that parents were more polite and considerate!

I've got a 19 year old and I had the same issue back then so I don't agree with this comment!

Poor manners, wait until the parents who didn’t RSVP turn up at the party with their child!

I put an RSVP date on mine for about a week before the party (venue needs to know then the final number). Anyone who doesn't reply by then is not on the list! If they want to come along on the day they'll have to pay themselves and they won't get any food or a party bag! I have to be strict because I don't have loads of money and am budgeting carefully depending on the replies.

@KatherineofGaunt

I put an RSVP date on mine for about a week before the party (venue needs to know then the final number). Anyone who doesn't reply by then is not on the list! If they want to come along on the day they'll have to pay themselves and they won't get any food or a party bag! I have to be strict because I don't have loads of money and am budgeting carefully depending on the replies.

Ruthless! I like it

@GreenLunchBox Thanks! Having read so many threads on MN over the years about party issues, I decided I'd take a strong stance from the very beginning (this is my only child's first party)! I just have to stay strong!

I’m donning my hard hat.

I’d RSVP if we are going by telling the parent at pickup. But I have massive massive social anxiety especially round my phone, texts and people having my number (abusive relationships and family members have made me this way). So I wouldn’t RSVP to say no unless I saw and knew who you are at pickup, and I was feeling brave that day.

I know it’s shit. I know I’m terrible (which also feeds the anxiety knowing I’m causing problems).

@EvilPea

I’m donning my hard hat.

I’d RSVP if we are going by telling the parent at pickup. But I have massive massive social anxiety especially round my phone, texts and people having my number (abusive relationships and family members have made me this way). So I wouldn’t RSVP to say no unless I saw and knew who you are at pickup, and I was feeling brave that day.

I know it’s shit. I know I’m terrible (which also feeds the anxiety knowing I’m causing problems).

Could you ask the nursery worker/ teacher to pass on a message? As a teacher, I'd be happy to give a written note to another parent because it's not something that many parents ask so not exactly onerous. It might help you avoid texting and some of the anxiety?

I don't know the parents very well as DC is in reception and have no clue how I'd go about chasing them without having to speak to all of them at drop off/collection. There isn't a class WhatsApp either 🤷‍♀️