Anxiety is horrible

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Yesterday 07:40mummybear2918

I am posting to see if anyone has the same feelings and any advice.
I am really anxious when it comes to my children and I know that its normal to feel some sort of anxiety I feel like mine it a bit to much. So I hate my children being away from we and it makes me really anxious and I actually can sometimes feel sick. I have to put myself into situation where I am to leave them to day-care as I have to work, they where with my mum until she took sick and now is unable to look after them. So the feeling I get is that something bead is going to happen to them because they are not in my care and I feel like I am the only one who can protect them properly. Even when I go to get food shopping all I think about it going home to them even though they will be sleeping. My DD is at the age where she is asking to go and have a sleepover with the Grandparents and I feel like I cant say No as its my DD losing out and when they take my DD then they ask can they have my DS and I feel like he is losing out as well as they love being with family but I get so anxious and I have to go to bed early or I have to be up and about doing something I cannot just chill out and relax and have wine and takeaway. I even hate taking the children out walks alone or to the park cause I keep thinking something will happen or that if I look away 1 second someone will have taken them. I also feel like I am being watched and judge when I am out. The thing that gets to me the most is feeling like something bad is going to happen to my babies if I am not there and I mean I vision the worst situation possible and it really hurts that my mind is like this.
I finally opened up and spoke to DH he was just a idiot about it and said that I seriously need help that this is mental behaviour and its sick and YES I know its not normal and I think i will have to see a doctor its how he said it and made me feel about it, He made me feel like I am not normal and I am a mental case... please tell me other mums have had feelings like this. Really sorry for the really long post

My children sleep at home with us, unless I’m there. End of. You’re allowed have boundaries. My son had allergies and the monitoring of that took ages.. You sound stressed though, try calm app before sleep.. and go to your gP if you can’t sleep, feel anxious all the time.. kids are very resilient.. you’re doing the same as the rest of us, bumbling along, juggling house, cooking, kids, job, while trying to look like you got dressed today and brushed your teeth!😃 it’s the life I sought, but it’s like juggling pots everyday..