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Miriam101 · 11/11/2021 21:23

Hello! I'm just looking for a bit of reassurance aboutfriendshipsin Reception and what to expect. DD is 4.5 and started school in Sept. Seems to have settled in pretty well; never any complaints about going and comes out happy. Her teacher says she's a dream to have in the class, whichis nice, obviously.

The only thing that's bothering me a little bit is friendships: she went in knowing just a couple of others and they weren't particular friends of hers, and although I've heard a lot of different names I can't tell that she's made any particular buddies or if it's more a case of just mixingwith lots of different kids. In fact some of the kids she talks about the most are in Year 1 (I think they all mix together after lunch.)

The teacher said she chats away to different kids and is happy just getting on with what she wants to do rather than being so eager to play with others that she does stuff she doesn't want to do. She- the teacher- said this was a good thing. DD certainly seems happy enough. It's just that at her nursery she made a couple - and particularly one- good friends so I was sort of hoping the same would happen here and tonight she said she missed nursery. But I do realise it's only been a couple of months and it's still very early days. I am just a little aware that there haven't been any playdate or partyinvites. And I don't know many of the other mums or dads so I also feel a bit socially awkward.

Does this sound fine for the stage she's at?

Should I be being massively proactive and trying to prise out of her who she's playing with and who she'd like to have over for a playdate (argh) or can I just have relax and trust that it'll all come in time?

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yellowgecko · 11/11/2021 22:01

Following as I am in exactly the same situation! I joined the 'friends of the school' and I'm trying to get DS to share more about friends...but it's slow going!

Chubbycatt · 11/11/2021 22:04

I think it's fine. But arranging play dates isn't going to do any harm.

Miriam101 · 12/11/2021 11:31

Yeah @yellowgecko it is slow-going isn't it? But when I think back to nursery I think it was only in the second term that her friendships started to bed in and it became clear she had preferences for certain kids over others, so maybe the same will happen here too. I think maybe it just happens more quickly for the super-confident ones...? I'm sure your DS will be fine.

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