2 year old girls constant anger

[TinyDancer275]

Hi there
Hope somebody can help
My little girl is newly two and her behaviour just seems to be getting worse each day.
She does show some signs of autism , but I know this does not necessarily mean she is autistic and the diagnosis won’t come till later.
But I guess I’m just trying to find some reassurance / if this is normal or not.
So very angry at the drop of a hat. Can be ok and then just start screaming. Banging head on (stone ) floor. Banging the cot. Throwing everything!!
Screaming!
Like a lot. She has been under the weather recently so this may be hun she seems worse.
I just want her to be a happy child instead of always upset.
Also, she can be Bly say about 4 words. Which she repeats. And at night when I put her to bed, she has started saying ‘bunny’ ( one of the words) and pointing to different things. When I go over it’s like she doesn’t actually know what she wants but it’s like she’s trying desperately to tell me something.
She does have a bunny and it’s always with her but she calls lots of things bunny and that’s the main word she says all day.
She doesn’t sleep well and often I just can’t console her! Try and cuddle her but even then she’s upset.
If anyone has any advice / or even maybe if you think it sounds like autism , is there somewhere I can get help from ?

Of course, she could just be like this! Could just be her personality and when she is able to talk more it may be much better.
Just trying to get help as the days are relentlessly long and depressing and sad!
Thank you

Hello,
Two year olds can go through tricky phases, I remember my son being hard work at that age. It did pass with him. How about a chat with your HV?

Two year olds screaming and throwing themselves on the floor over minor slights, pretty normal terrible

Only 4 words, and not being able to sleep/settle, maybe slightly more concerning. Who would it reassure you to speak to about this? Have you had your two-year development check with the health visitor yet?

I think I'd seek advice. It could be frustration, 4 words is not very many at 2. The head banging and screaming maybe because she is frustrated at not being understood (which I'm sure you try you hardest to do. My son has s+l needs and id be nearly in tears trying to work out what he wanted). Also a lot of my sons words sounded like mama or similar so it sounded like she had less words than she did (but again v difficult to understand).

Also if you think she might have a special need I would recommend getting help now. I started voicing my concerns at the two year check and they did all the basic stuff like hearing tests etc. and he's due to start reception next September with an echp for his speech and language and is currently at a nursery with a dedicated speech and language therapist and teacher (also an occupational therapist but my son didn't need that help). He'll start school with funding and targets in place (I was very lucky that I was listened to and the right professionals were able to knock on the right doors, I know a lot of people don't have such a smooth journey) If I'd have waited until he started school we'd be years away from the help he is already getting.

So please do talk to your hv and also look at what your county offers that you could access yourself. Some have Facebook pages or hotlines for specialist that you can ask questions directly.

Yes, regular and extreme anger could be sensory issues. Common for kids with autism/Asperger's.

There are helpful videos on YouTube if you search Sensory Issues in Toddlers

Thank you so much for your comments everyone.
Yes, I was actually referred to paediatrics in February for something ( diet related) and still not heard anything. Chased it up numerous times but nothing.
Spoke to health visitor. Rang doctors lots of times over the past year really.
Then in august I asked for her to be referred as I said I really needed some help and wanted them to look at her head due to all the head banging. She has a lump on the back of her head. Doctors know about this and have said is fine, many times.
So they did (reluctantly) refer me again in august. Still absolutely nothing.
I do totally get that it’s so busy everywhere but I genuinely don’t know where to turn. The health visitor said she would refer her for speech. Again never heard anything.
I asked the doctors if I could go private and if I have to pay then i will have to just to get some answers. But again no recommendations.
I think I’ll message the health visitor again and chase up the speech referral.
It just feels like I’m banging my head against a brick wall trying to get any help/ answers.
The one good thing is she has recently started nursery and they actually seem to be the only people who will listen. They said they would monitor her and do her 2 year assessment soon.

Have you tried any signs or picture cards to help her communicate? She's probably really frustrated - DS didn't talk till 2.5 and used to stamp his foot a lot because he was fed up. 2 is a hard age anyway so a lot of tantrums sound pretty normal unfortunately. Don't ever break a banana in half is my advice.

Have you had your two year review with the HV? I'd push for that and then keep chasing up the referrals, it's so frustrating that it takes so long to be seen.

Thank you Wagglerock, no I haven’t tried the signage / cards but that’s a really good idea and I’ll have a look!
Yes I messaged the health visitor today and she’s coming soon now to do the 2 year assessment xx