I need advice/opnions please. I've been with my partner 20 years now, since I was 21. We had a baby 5 years ago and another 2 years ago. 10 years ago he was great with my niece and nephew. Since having our own he does nothing with them, especially since the 2 year old was born. He has had troubles with his business since she was born and this has now got to the point where he doesnt shower or look after himself. He does nothing with the kids, I do meals, baths, beds, pick up,drop off, take them on holiday on my own etc. And I work 3 and half days a week. He has sleep apnea too so I cant leave the kids with him even to do the food shopping in case he falls asleep. Weve not slept in the same bed for 10 years since his snoring started. He never comes anywhere with us or suggests even a walk as a family. I know he's probably depressed but I've tried everything to help him. I've answered his work phones, made docs appointments for his deteriorating health, I do all his washing, clean up after him blah blah. I'm tired. I do everything as a single parent anyway. I'm I being selfish leaving him when he is stuck in this rutt? Although he isn't doing much at all to help himself get better? He won't mention being unhappy to the docs as he doesnt believe in mental health.