I'm hoping to draw on some mumsnet wisdom, any advice would be much appreciated!
My DSis is getting married abroad in the summer and has asked me to be bridesmaid, I'm over the moon to be asked to be part of their big day and excited to get a week away in the sun too. The plan was for me, DP and nearly 3yo DD (who's a flower girl) to go for a week and stay in a villa with the wedding party.
However...I've just found out I'm pregnant and due 6 weeks before the wedding. We're thrilled but it's thrown me into a spin. My options seem to be:
- We all go. I book to register baby asap after birth and try and get a passport in time. Book the flights for the 4 of us and keep fingers crossed that baby and I are well and fit to travel. Tell myself that newborns are portable, I can wear baby in a sling/keep them in the shade with DP and I can BF baby throughout the day.
- I go alone with DD. I try and get baby to take bottles so DP can do feeds. I'd need to go for 2 nights, the night before and night of the wedding. I'd get the latest flight available out and earliest back.
DP is leaning towards option 2. He thinks 1 sounds like a stressful nightmare with managing to keep baby cool in the heat, baby crying for feeds or me during the ceremony and we'd have the extra cost of our own accommodation so we don't keep the bridal party up during the night in their villa. Plus the thought of flying with a toddler, newborn and all the extra things the wee one would need like a pram/car seat.
I know me going with DD is simpler, logistically easier and cheaper but I remember how I was with her when she was new and tiny - she was a limpet and equally I didn't want to put her down. I try to imagine leaving them even for a couple of days at that stage and it goes against my instincts.
Not going isn't an option, she's my only sibling and we're really close. I have to go, it's just making it work. Sorry for the long OP - thanks for bearing with me.
WWYD?