Is my baby going to be an only child?

[PeeAche]

Interested in what others think here.

I am pregnant with my first. It's been a long, long road paved with medicine, bad news, miscarriages and heartache. This is why I'm only having one!

I have two SC from my husband's previous marriage and they're here about 25% of the time because their mum lives closer to school. They're 7 and 10, if the age difference matters. They're very close to their Dad and I have a fab relationship with them too.

I'm idly wondering if the new baby will feel like they have siblings, or like they're an only? Or something in between? Whether my step children will feel truly related to new baby as a sibling? What does it actually feel like to be a child in this family set up?

I had 3 brothers and my parents weren't divorced so my experience was widely different and it makes it hard to imagine.

Anyone here with SC and only 1 of their own? Or any people here that actually grew up with this situation? I'm just curious really!

I know it doesn't really matter but I'm pregnant and spending a lot of the time (I should be working) daydreaming about new baby and our growing family unit. 😳

They won't be an only child if they have siblings!
The relationship will be different as they don't live together and there is a bigger age gap but they are still siblings

Same boat here but a bigger age gap. Took us years and multiple mcs and medications to get DD and she’ll be my only. DD has siblings, of course she does, but my DSC already have more ad hoc contact as they’re getting older and it’s harder to plan things and they’ll be at uni or working while she’s still mid primary so she’ll effectively be an only day to day from a young age.

I’m one of 4 so I can’t really get my head round it either, I completely see what you’re saying.

Best of both worlds i think...
They will have an "only" childhood due to the age gap/different interests but as adults they should def feel they will have siblings.
My and my.DH had 5/6 year age gaps and werent really 'friends' with siblings until 18/20 +

I grew up as an "only child" in my house, my dad had children from a previous marriage who never lived with us. For me I felt like an only child and have never been super close to my siblings, I do get on with them but as we've gotten older I only really see them a couple of times a year. But a positive of this is we've never argued or had any fall outs or anything and we get on well when we do see each other