I just want to run away

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I'm fed up of being a parent. I'm starting to dread every day. I want to run away and not come back.

Wine anyone?

Me! I'm sorry you feel like this too.

Do you have a anywhere you could take a break to without the actually going AWOL?

🍷

Are you a single parent? If not can you engineer a mini break?

I understand where you are coming from.

I have on two occasions over the last 9 years gone for a planned night at a premier inn. It was absolute bliss just to wake up naturally not be woken by someone else. Just stayed in my room watched tv and read. Very restorative.

No DH and I still together (somehow).

3 year old and a 1 year old..the 3 year old is absolutely mental. I'm so fed up of throwing stuff, running away, talking absolutely non stop.

He's absolutely suffocating.

Mine are 14 and 13 and I love having them around now. 3 and 1 - I feel your pain and a glass of 🍷 is a good antidote!

Our nanny things he might have ADHD and I'm just struggling cos I keep telling myself he will calm down.

He runs out of shops. He stops crossing the road to talk to the drivers. He talks to anyone. He falls over constantly. He throws drinks. He runs away when I'm trying to get him dressed.

I never get any peace with him awake. At all. My whole day is rotated around him. He is very bright (not a stealth boast, believe me). I struggle to manage a conversation with anyone when he is awake. I just want to cry. My arm is broken and I'm struggling so much.

I have a 3 and 1 year old, my 3 year old is the same wont listen, throwing everything she can get her hands on, trying to run off, today I actually looked forward to bedtime not that she is asleep!

The toddler and young children years are bloody difficult anddh I don't blame you for wanting to escape sometimes: I certainly did! I got through it though and so will you. As they get older, less needy and more able to express themselves they do get easier and nicer to be around.

I just read your update and life is certainly not going to be easy with a broken arm! My dc 1 has adhd. We used to put him in reins when we were out and I used to strap him into the pushchair when I needed to change the youngest's nappy in those baby change rooms. I used to take him to the park or just let him loose in the garden so he could run off some steam. He now uses books and screens as a way of calming himself down (I think he uses them to quieten his mind) and, oddly, hates being outside!

for you

I feel for you, I really do. I had my eldest two close together and one day I'll never forget is when DD1 was almost 2 and DD2 5 months old. DD1 was being completely feral, running around, throwing things just generally being a PITA toddler and I just couldn't settle DD2 who was screaming the house down. I just reached the end of my tether and i remember very calmly putting DD1 upstairs in her cot with some toys, DD2 in her bouncy chair, grabbed my cot and car keys and stepped out of the house. I didn't even get to the front gate before I turned around but in that moment I had had enough and wanted to just run away. DH returned from work around 15 minutes later to find me sobbing on the bottom of the stairs.

It gets easier. I promise

Can you send the oldest to nursery for a couple of days a week to get a break?