Visitors

[CoffeeMonkey]

I feel like you always read a lot of ‘dos & donts’ for visitors when you have a newborn but what do people feel as the baby/ child gets older?

Our LO is 6 months old & we have had issues on & off since they were born with family & friends dropping in unannounced, asking to come visit the baby last minute, changing plans/ times last minute, or asking to come on my OHs only day off (the only time the 3 of us get to spend quality time together)

Just wondering how comfortable people are with saying no/ asking for more notice & what the reaction has been to this if they have done so?

I’d just continue saying no if you don’t want them round for sure. As I would have done pre-baby too. Nobody should be turning up with no warning. To be fair mine was a lockdown baby though so we got no visitors, I’d have jumped at the chance for anyone to come round😂

But yeah stick to your guns, doesn’t matter how old baby is if you don’t want to see someone let them know politely of a better time to come, mines 19mo and I’d still tell someone ‘now isn’t a good time he’s napping/eating/upset/we have plans’ if it just wasn’t a great time for us to see them.

Baby or not, if you don't want visitors dropping round unannounced then make that clear. I'm totally with you, I would hate people dropping by without prior arrangement.

Could you tell them that you're on your way out? I've seen MNers say that they keep a coat by the door and pick it up before answering the door.

I have no problems saying NO to people, if it doesn't work for us it does not happen. I hate unannounced visitors, especially if we were not planning on going out as we have PJ days.