I feel like such a failure

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Why won't my toddlers sleep through the night? Tein2 has been awake since 11. He won't go to sleep. Won't let me. Cuddle him to sleep. Won't lie down. He's now strapped into the buggy downstairs with milk because I'm such a failure I can't even mKe him sleep. They don't nap great so they're always cranky. They don't eat great, will snack endlessly on anything Soreen make but nothing by way of actual healthy or proper food. Every one else seems to have kids who at least do one thing right - eat or sleep or talk. They still don't say much in proper words so I can't even tell what's wrong just endless Mom and crying.

I'm such a fu k up. These were my big healthy babies, after the poorly older one, where I could blame lots on his medical needs but now I have two who are worse sleepers, terrible eaters despite no issues, they constantly climb and don't listen to me when I tell them no so the problem is obv me as I'm home with them. Maybe we should just get into debt to send them to nursery so they can have some proper looking after in the day before they make themselves ill or fall of something.

I'm meant to be sleeping but I hate myself so much for being a horrible mom.

DH is with him, he's not alone downstairs

The fact that your on here writing the above shows your an amazing mum who cares. I try not to compare to other mums because every time I do I feel like a failure too.We've had sleep issues with both my toddlers and one is really fussy with food.
As long as they are healthy and happy your doing your best.
Please know you are not alone and that motherhood is the toughest journey

Hey! I'm here and listening. You're not a horrible Mom and you're not failing.

Toddlers are hard!! Do you have 2?

It sounds like you are in desperate need of a break and almost like a total reset.

Is that possible right now? Can you take a day away (maybe leave them with DH) relax, and try to come up a plan for tackling it?

(I'm not an expert on any of this... just have two of my own so repeating some of the things I did)

Snacking - it sounds like you maybe need to cut the snacks and only offer meals? I had a baby who did this with bottles and ended up "pecking" constantly and this was what HV recommended to me. Let them get hungry. Offer small, "snack like" meals with the things they'd have as snacks, because right now you need to try to build up a routine. Then slowly switch out the snacky stuff for mealy type stuff?

Sleep - I always did controlled crying, which I know some people are against, so I'm not sure how much help I can be.

General - have you heard of 1 - 2 - 3 magic? My mum did this with me as a child, so I naturally did it with mine, and it worked great for both of them who are complete opposites.

It's about getting down on their level, keeping your cool, and communicating clearly with them. Kids (especially ones that young) just have no idea how to process all the massive emotions they're feeling, so as adults we kinda have to help them.

This becomes impossible when we're sleep deprived and stressed ourselves, so it's understandable you feel like you're struggling. You're not though, you're human.

So... try to get a break. If that's not possible, make yourself a cup of tea right now, and come up with an action plan.

Sending support. This will pass!