Bad habits 12 week old?

[R1cciteddy]

Just wondered what others think..

I'm really just going with the flow and not worrying about creating bad habits. Should I be worried?

I'm getting tonnes of sleep as she's never cried at night, I just hear her wake, feed her for literally 5 mins and she goes to sleep. This can happen up to 5 times but I don't care as we both go to sleep easily again. Sometimes she doesn't wake much at all

We cosleep which I love and I don't mind how long it lasts

She mainly naps in a sling as it's an easy option for me. (She fights sleep during the day) Although I have started to try one nap a day in her side cot to wean her into it (no success yet)

I sometimes feed to sleep for bedtime, partner rocks her to sleep.

I'm just going for what makes life easy for me and what makes her happy. I just think back in prehistoric times they didn't think about creating bad habits and just tended to the baby to stop it crying.

Looking for someone to put me straight!!

It sounds perfect! The best piece of advice anyone gave me when I had a baby was don't change anything for the sake of changing things. If it works for you, it's all good.

🤷🏼‍♀️ I don't believe so and do pretty much the same as you (16 weeks). In the early weeks I panicked about bad habits but now I just keep working on the basis that I'll tackle it if it ever becomes an issue down the line and if it works now don't change it. It may come back to bite me at some point I'm sure but it's made me much more laid back and relaxed as a parent. And most of the 'bad habits' I worried about when she was tiny she naturally just grew out of within a few weeks and things changed as she got a bit older so I'm working on the assumption it will continue to be the same. Don't fix what ain't broken if it works.

Mine was exactly the same. Slept through from 9m, but prior to that once in her own room I often stirred before the monitor even lit up.

No such things as bad jab it's - go with what works!

I fed her to sleep at night until about 1 year but then one night dh put her to bed without me feeding her and never have done since!

Sounds like everything is going great!
As pp I always worked off id tackle anything when it comes to it.
Your both sleeping great, she's feeding well. All good!

Ah thanks everyone , I just second guess myself sometimes. She's such a cutie I'm happy to have her attached to me at all times, haha

Love Mumsnet

I co slept and breastfed to sleep on demand, and DD still co sleeps at nearly 4. I really don't mind, so it depends what your expectations are for the future, but they really should be YOUR expectations not anybody beyond you and your DH. You can always lie to relatives who feel they have an opinion on your sleeping habits. I do!

In terms of naps, my DD never napped in a cot. She either napped in a sling when tiny and then in a pushchair with a snooze shade (and rain cover) parked up in the garden, so that I could rock her to sleep and so the dog wouldn't wake her barking at the postman. This worked well and I honestly never saw the point in battling to get her napping in a cot when napping is such a temporary thing in a child's life. It was also great when we were out and about or at someone else's house as her nap set up never changed.

I've always tended to DD quickly when she cries and she is now a wonderful happy pre schooler who the staff all adore and she rarely cries or tantrums, so I haven't created a monster.

Generally if it feels right to be doing something for your baby then it probably is.

Definitely no such thing as a bad habit! Enjoy those sleepy milky cuddles ❤️

The thing is with worrying about potential bad habits/stress later trying to break them is that you end up giving yourself a load of stress now trying to avoid them.

And it might not even be a problem later. My older two both grew out of needing to co-sleep and it was easy to move them to their own rooms. They grew out of wanting/needing to go in the sling. They just had naps in other ways or stopped having naps at all. It was no trouble. The first one stopped feeding to sleep by himself and stopped breastfeeding by himself. The second one I initiated it and yes, it was something that I had to put effort into but I would not have described it as hard work.

If it's a problem later you can always work on it and change it then. Have you ever met an adult who can't go to sleep unless they are being rocked in a sling on somebody's chest? Or who is still breastfeeding and has never learned to eat solid foods? Of course not. So yes don't worry about it, until the point that it becomes a problem.

Often fans of routines or whatever other magic technique will stop them from needing you like to point to co-sleeping etc and say well people end up doing it until they are toddlers. The part they are missing is that we are still doing it when they are toddlers because it works for us and we don't mind. If I minded I would have changed it earlier. So it's absolutely fine to go with what works now.

@R1cciteddy I think it's a first time mums prerogative to second guess themselves. I do it all the time but then just keep reminding myself that it's working and we're all happy and healthy so I need to trust my instincts more. We still have very little in the way of routine, most naps are contact naps at home, in the sling or in the pushchair whilst we're out and about but it works and the bonus is I can get her to nap wherever we are at the minute rather than being tied to the house. I never get any housework done but I figured she will only ever be this little once and I'll never regret cuddling her all day and taking the 'easy road' but I will regret wasting days battling to get her to nap in her cot so I can get the housework done - there's plenty of time for that again in the future.