Me and my other half are expecting our first baby next year. Since we found out I'm pregnant his mum has been trying to be as involved as possible, trying to invite herself to appointments etc. We live with my mum as she struggles with some tasks around the home and I help her out. His mum is the one who said to save stress stay at my mums when the baby comes so can help still and less pressure on us. My mum and his have both offered to help with childcare when I go back to work but his mum is obsessive over it. I only plan on going back part time because I want to spend as much time as I can with my baby because we didn't think we'd have kids. His mum is on about setting the baby up it's own nursery. Getting herself a full travel system "because she's going to have the baby that much its pointless keep dragging ours to hers". The thing is....between me going part time and other half doing shifts anyway. It'll only be once in a blue moon she has baby but she can't seem to understand that. I have reservations about her having the baby anyway because she is a heavy smoker and can't go more than 20 mins without one and doesn't bother about smoking in front of her other grandchild. She's booked a holiday for us all to the middle of nowhere 6hrs away when the baby is 3 months old without asking if we would be up for it. I did get on really well until recently when she just takes over everything. Other half has spoken to his mum but she doesn't listen. Help!