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4 month sleep regression 😭

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Shmerlock · 29/10/2021 23:01

Not sure what I'm after with this post, just some solidarity more than anything - and some hope that this will pass!! 🤞🏻

My DD is 17 weeks and for the last week and a half has become a terrible sleeper. She had been reasonably good - going down well at night, usually only waking once for a feed. Now, its every hour (if that, tonight and last night it's every 40 mins). She wakes up crying and builds to a scream if we don't get her out of the next to me. She either wants feeding or it's hours of rocking/shushing. She'll fall asleep on the boob but as soon as she's back in her bed her arms will jolt out or she'll stir after 20mins or so and the whole cycle repeats!!

Daytime naps are non-existent, she's never been a brilliant day sleeper but now we're lucky if we get her to sleep for 15 minutes!!! We monitor all her sleep cues and as soon as she shows them it's operation nap time!! But nothing works and she either refuses to sleep or goes down for 15/20 mins. In the pram I can get half an hour of sleep maximum before she wakes and cries for me to carry her.

I'm at my wits end, as is my partner!! I'm finding it really starting to impact on my mood - feeling almost resentful towards her which I feel awful to say, just beyond exhausted 😩😴

Definitely won't be needing a Halloween costume this year, I already look like the walking dead!!!

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Cantgetausername87 · 30/10/2021 08:58

I dont have any advice but wanted to show some solidarity -it will pass and its ok to feel how you feel. Sleep depravation is a form of torture!

Dontjumptoconclusions · 30/10/2021 09:12

Hi OP, DS was exactly the same. He would wake up every 90 mins, 60 mins, 30, 20, 10, 5 ... I was at the end of my rope. It's exhausting. It's tiring but IT WILL PASS. DS had this for 10 nights, and then one night suddenly he slept for 4 hours straight. Next night again another 4 ...so it does pass.
Just do what you can to plod along in the meantime, if there's help available from a partner, grandparents etc use it. It is by far the worst of the sleep regressions, so once you get through this , it gets easier

ThirdElephant · 30/10/2021 09:16

It'll pass. In the meantime, get someone to hold her while she sleeps and naps. They tend to sleep much longer that way.

DH and I took shifts- I slept 6 p.m. to midnight, he sleeps midnight to 6 a.m. and the other one held DD and watched TV.

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ThirdElephant · 30/10/2021 09:17

*slept

Shmerlock · 30/10/2021 10:57

Thanks all, it's horrendous 😩 she's so grumpy because she's so tired - she looks like she has purple rings under her eyes from overtiredness 😔. Just wish she would sleep better, even nap better! Tried in the pram again this morning, half an hour bang on and she's wide awake! 🙈

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Sneezymcsneezy · 30/10/2021 11:04

@Shmerlock I could have written your post, every 2 hours on the dot but having to spend at least 30 mins each time settling him back down, boob no longer does the job so bum pats for ages, and if he isn't deep asleep he will wake up and it starts again. Solidarity, and try not to look at it as a regression, mine is almost rolling over (therefore so many whale slams at night from practicing) and is working really hard at his stomach crunches (working towards sitting up).

Shmerlock · 30/10/2021 11:16

@Sneezymcsneezy oh my god the stomach crunches! She never stops doing this, we keep saying she's gonna have a six pack soon 🤣. Thank you!! It is so tough isn't it!? She looks absolutely exhausted at the moment, which she is! Just feels like we're stuck in this vicious cycle 😔

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GuruLuru · 30/10/2021 15:57

Bang on four months and my littley became a sleep arse. Wouldn't sleep. It was dire. Co sleeping worked but I was so against it...but in the end it was what worked. Kicked hubbby out of the bed and I shared with her.

What saved us was 6m. I just shoved her in her own room and boom..she slept 6hours. Next night 7 hours. Had a few nights of that before she woke up every 3 but those were enough to recharge the batteries. It was so tough. Mines 10m now and ahe sleeps through. I dunno how long for though! My advice is don't get used to anything...

Sneezymcsneezy · 30/10/2021 18:16

@GuruLuru yes, I go to bed with 0 expectations/expectation to wake up every hour 😹 I was hoping that moving him into his room will sort it out. I've tried co-sleeping and found I get less sleep than getting up and getting him from his crib 🥲

@Shmerlock so freakin tough, our arrangement at home is partner sleeps in the spare bedroom but he comes in at 7.30 to let me have a couple of hours of sleep in the morning before he starts work and weekends he comes in to the room for the nights together. Just remember she's a baby and we have no idea how they are coping with the transitions they are going through, we just need to be there to support them emotionally and physically! Hopefully you're on maternity leave so you can focus on just getting through this Smile

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