Am I being unreasonable?

[Fancyties]

My OH kids (11 & 15 girl and boy) come round everyother weekend, they have their own rooms when here.

Usually my LO (8 months) sleeps in her room which is the girls room but she's a very light sleeper (no idea why when I used to hoover around her all the time when she was small, make loads of noise and chat away etc) so we're having to put my LO in our room in travel cot and we sleep downstairs. So can't share rooms when the 11 year old is here.

It's the first night the other kids are here in 6 weeks ( both had covid etc) we put her in her travel cot for sleep in our room, she slept 45 mins and has become upset. She's finally settled after 45 minutes of going in and out to settle her, but get occasional cry out.

Im pissed off, but I don't know if I am being unreasonable 😔 I think the girl should leave her room and stay in our room from 7pm ish. And my LO has her room to sleep in. My Oh thinks our 8 month old should adjust and be put in our room in travel cot.

I love all our kids. Our 8 month old is here permanently and lives with us and feels like right now she's second best to his other daughter.

Yes yes I know we should have thought about it before having a kid, but tbh the 15 year old had stopped coming round for a bit and the girl was going to have his room and if he wanted to stay he would have the sofa.

Please tell me it be OK and I'm being unreasonable to the 11 year old. Literally fighting back the tears as I feel our LO is going to suffer for this 😭😭😭😭

And black noise!

I would get one of your step children to sleep downstairs.
Sure, the cupboard under the stairs or maybe the cellar? FFS. An 11-year-old and a 15-year-old need a bed and a bedroom and will know if their routine is awry or if they’re being pushed out. A baby can be moved around the house. Yes, it sucks for OP that her baby is currently a bad sleeper but that comes with the territory of having a baby.

The original child, who had a bedroom prior to you deciding to have Another child should keep her room. She should have her own space.

You can't just bring a new baby in and everyone has to suddenly change and adapt even more than they already have had to do. If you didn't have enough space for another then it wasn't sensible to have another and you'll be a bit uncomfortable.

You thought babies were meant to sleep?!

I think you just need to deal with it tbh - many babies struggle at 8mo regardless of where they are. Have you got a mattress for the travel cot to make it comfier? Black out blinds on the window? Longer term, can you make any changes to the house so all the children have their own spaces?

Wow lots of different opinions here. Love the comment about being unhinged 😂 made me chuckle.

Pink noise - I think it's much softer, white noise sounds like those films that torture people and the sound really gets to me.there's so many kinds out there.

Yep I have mattress for travel cot. I use black out blinds. It's pitch black in our whole of upstairs. Can't see hand in front of face half the time just the glow of her temp egg.

8 month old would wake up if you sneaked in. I have gone in there in the night before to get something and I have done it several ways - being a ninja or loud as an elephant she wakes up. I went in to get pillows from our room last night where she was sleeping and she stirred. So barmey as I was never quite with her when she was younger. The only thing I make sure is she can't hear me as that will wake her 😂

If the 11 year old went in our room, she wouldn't be sharing with us, we would vacate downstairs. I wouldn't let her share with us unless she was unwell etc and wanted too. She's 11 and as someone said she's puberty age.

Yes she's started waking 2 hourly as she's forgotten to link cycles. She's usually a pro at linking. I know babies don't sleep but our kid does normally.

Thank you for those that could understand how I feel. It made me not feel so unhinged as someone said.

Yesterday was a low day due to having poor night sleep with being up 2 hourly the night before and felt pretty crap about it.

We slept downstairs and I currently can not feel my knee joints. Everyone slept and seems well atm. 8 month old sleeping and woke once. Hopefully it continues.

Why would she have to go in the room at 7? Is she banished upstairs after tea or something? Invite her some to watch a movie with you or something then she'll probably be quite happy to have a double bed to herself to sleep