Son not bonding with dad

[Nicky1016]

I am looking for some advice if anyone else has experienced this please . My two year old son does not let his dad in emotionally and always seems to dislike him . I have no idea why because he is the best dad and gives him so much love and attention . My son is in my full care 5 days a week , he does not go to nursery just stays with family for two days a week . We have a close bond me and my son he always wants me over anyone . I just do not know why he won’t let his dad comfort him , cuddle him , or sometimes even play with him . They do mess around chasing each other but that’s about it . Will he grow out of it ? Is it something we are doing wrong ? Any help appreciated as it’s getting both of us down

In our case I suspect it's because I was at home on parental leave (I'm the dad) when he was 9-12months,which looks to have been a key age in attachment forming for him. But I don't know - we definitely spend equal time with him now. It's a really hard one, best of luck...

^ that was in reply to OPs quote of me - deleted the text for some reason

My DH upped his game when he started to notice similar issues when our DS was little because he didn't want a 'lesser' relationship with his son than I had. He works incredibly long hours, leaves at 5.30 and gets back at 7.30. But no matter how tired he is he takes over everything regarding DS as soon as he's home. Even when it was just bedtime story and putting him back to bed a million times per evening. At weekends he takes the lead role, getting up with him, feeding him, going off to feed the duck etc. If he's around I'm not the default parent, he is.

I think your son is far too young to have this behaviour attributed to him. It is very normal for small children to have a stronger bond with one parent than the other. The onus is on your partner to change their behaviour, your child is too young to understand why they are behaving this way.

Just want to agree with the advice to give them some alone time. My 2 year old used to be a total mummy’s girl for similar reasons, and still does want me more when she’s tired or upset, but the more my husband has done with her alone the closer their relationship has gotten. It was a bit hard at first but now she’s very happy and comfortable doing stuff with him instead of me, tells him she loves him etc.