Hello!
Husband and I have been separated since February this year. He just decided to not communicate with me anymore over something very small. Baring in mind, this happened on the day I came back with DD from my mum's house after being very sick in hospital. I caught COVID a few weeks later, I texted him to let him know, he texted back 9 hours later to say if I need any food to let him know and didn't bother helping me whilst self isolating with DD or asking how I'm feeling or anything. I tried to speak to him a few weeks after, he didn't want to speak so I didn't try again, because I have tried too many times in the past to save the marriage and I don't want to try anymore, I don't like him nor love him. Anyhow, we were living in the same house with no communication at all. There were instants when he got quite angry and was slamming doors day in day out for no apparent reason. Spending about 30 minutes a day with DD at the most and the rest of his time after work with his brother and friends. We both work from home. I do everything for DD and he didn't help at all with my shifts. Anyways, come first week of July, he went on holiday (Spain - he's originally from Spain and his mum and brother live there as well as all his school friends etc.). We've not heard from him until 30th September, when he texted asking if he can video call DD, I texted back with a date and time and he called her. And nothing since then, until a couple of days ago, he messaged saying he wants to video call her. I have noticed a pattern, that every time I post DD on social media and his sister sees the pictures like her first day at nursery and first school picture , a day later he messages otherwise he doesn't at all. The last time he spoke with her, he said he was coming soon and promised to buy her lots of toys, costumes, take her to the zoo and aquarium etc. so every day for a week after they spoke, she'd ask where he was or why he doesn't want to be home, what he's doing away, why he doesn't want to spend time with her and she'd get really pensive and upset. Nevertheless, I don't want to deprive DD of communication with her dad, so she sent him a couple of voice notes on whats'app, he was online but didn't reply until the following morning, saying thank you, when can I call her. I texted saying now is a good time, she called him but he didn't answer and texted saying he'd call later today, he was in a meeting. It's been 9 hours and still nothing. I just feel like he's messing DD about and is trying to prove a point to his family that he's speaking to her by recording their conversations. Not sure what to do, I really don't want to pick up when he calls but at the same time, I don't want DD to miss the opportunity to speak with her dad.
Just to clarify he doesn't need to be abroad, he chose to work from his mum's house in Spain. Also, I've not filed for divorce yet, as I've had a tough year health wise, difficulties at work and I've also just finished my master's degree.