Co parenting

[Mumoftwinsplusone21]

Hi 👋🏻
I’m after some advice.
Long story short I’ve broken up with my partner shortly after having twin girls now 7 months old.
He was seeing another woman and has proven to be nothing like he said and made out like he was.
Co parenting has been extremely hard and after 8 weeks of no contact with the girls he has finally seen them.
Basically it was my birthday last week and when I dropped the girls off he handed me a gift. I kinda didn’t acknowledge it and he left it in my car.
I don’t want to do gifts and honestly is left me a bit confused.
I also don’t want to start an argument but how should I deal with this. I’m new to co parenting g and so far have failed at it
Any thoughts welcome xxx

@Mumoftwinsplusone21
Did he say if it was from the twins when he give it to you

@babyghirl no he didn’t he just said I got u this twice and I kinda preoccupied myself then put it in the car

Lots of people buy their exes presents “from the kids” it’s not something I would do but it’s very common, even though my ex isn’t incontact with the kids he still texts me happy birthday every year 🙄

No he didn’t. He said I got u this twice I was acting preoccupied because I didn’t want to thank him or say no thansk. he left it on the back seat

Yea I know my other ex still txts me happy birthday.
This breakup was very distressing and a lot has gone on since he’s been vile to say the least so have I at times x

Is it a personal gift or one that could conceivably be from the children

It could be from the children but I wasn’t and won’t buy gifts from the children till there old enough to understand it’s there dads birthday and can actually be involved. Things have been bad and I don’t want to set him off again by mentioning it but it’s bugged a bit x

Everyone I’m new to this posting but have found so much support out there in twin mum groups I want to start getting opinions and advice here too bear with me while I get used to it

It could just be because it’s fresh break up? If it’s the first birthday since maybe he just doesn’t know what to do, When he sees you don’t do it he will probably stop.

That does seem like the logical thing to do I'm having a hard time at letting him be nice I feel as though I need to remind him of how much I hate him 🙄

Just pretend your the queen being given a bunch of sweaty flowers by a sticky child I think the phrase she uses is how kind

If its something that needs displaying your split up he will never know

If its something that needs eating there are food banks he will never know

Clothing? Seriously clothing bank how will he find out

Just stay classy and your children will never know how much you hate him

@Mumoftwinsplusone21
Watch it could be a trick to try and rail you in again try to make you see what your missing. I would just put it in the bag next time you drop kids of and when he says about it just say thank you but I can't accept it.

🤣👌🏻 hopfully he's done being a prick and I won't have to hate him forever 🤞🏻not every action needs a reaction ay

@Babyghirl well tbh I did feel like he was playing a game like it's too good to be true that he's being nice all of a sudden, he even invited me in when I picked up which I declined. Honestly he's made my life hell don't know wat the turn around is about 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Mumoftwinsplusone21
He's up to something 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 he has realised what he's lost, never mind trying to get you to realise what you have lost 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂.

Has he found out how much child support he needs to pay?

Has his girlfriend dumped him? 🤔

I would be aware its around the time some men decide where they feel most comfortable no man is so loving as a man in need of a roodf over his head and a clean bed

My ex left me months behind on gas and electrical bills not paid the water on his payday when he was due to pay the rent I didn't have a job and needed to hustle fast he literally spent his entire wages thought he could come and take the tax credit book (they said don't turn it over its yours till it runs out) I had changed the locks same day he left I never let him back he begged me and even said we could have another baby when he finally realised I was serious about not taking him back he began smashing my house up my sister came down and kicked him out 😂 he was never nice to me again

@Babyghirl I agree up to something 🤔 I've said no more games or being spiteful or I'm completley cutting him off for my own mental well-being. I hope he has realised what he's lost. Because he has lost a lot! 👌🏻

@TurnUpTurnip wise words 👌🏻 I suspect she's dumped him or vice versa I mean who wants to be with a man who cheated on his pregnant girlfriend and left her with 2 week old twins to look after 🙄 I hope she's gained some self respect and left him 2.
It's getting cold outside isn't it lol
Glad to hear you were strong and sent him on his way. Times a healer 👌🏻 but seriously why are men such pricks!!