Nursery giving treats?

[Lullaby88]

Is this normal?
Before I enrolled my daughter at the local nursery they strictly mentioned if I was giving her a packed lunch not to pack any chocolate/juice/junk food etc. I was really pleased to hear this had been reinforced as I was aware schools and nurseries promote healthy eating now.
Anyway on her first week she received a cake and I was told this was from the child's parents as it was the child's birthday. This happened several times in a matter of 2 months. Then they had a huge cake sale. I bought cake out of goodwill to help the charity. But the following day my daughter came home with 3 huge slabs of cake. Ofcourse all of this they give her is something she will eat as it just feels awful in the car she's staring at her cakes and saying mummy I want to eat it mummy I want to eat it and I can't say no as its just unfair.
But last week I went to pick my daughter up and she was already in her coat. And I asked why? As I was a bit early. The teacher said oh we went for a walk to the shop (my daughter and another child) and I bought her some chocolates as she was asking for 'something' and she chose the chocolates. I was a bit surprised.
Is this normal???

As much as I don’t like over-treating my DD either and she’s had a few cakes and very often having ice cream or cake and custard after their lunch I just can’t find myself the balls to say no.

I don’t want DD to feel left out at nursery watching the other children have nice things while I’ve said less sugar. I would feel awful. - I used to give a treat when we got home but I’ve stopped doing that now and leave treats for weekends because she’s obviously getting them at nursery instead.

Not much help I know; would it be worth moving DD to another nursery?

The cake thing for birthdays is normal. At DD's nursery you can bring in a shop-bought cake for a birthday and it's shared with the other kids there. I think it's quite sweet as they all sit round and sing happy birthday

The shop thing and chocolate is a bit weird and doesn't sound like a nursery trip! More like someone just taking a couple of kids to the shop and buying them something to keep them quiet.

They do have fairy cakes occasionally on the menu and jelly, sponge, etc for afters and that doesn't bother me though.

The chocolate thing is weird. I can't imagine how that happens. DS does have birthday cake at nursery but they ask that parents don't send cake in and instead they bake the cake in the morning so use it as an educational tool.

OK so it's not that bad then. Yes the trip to the shop was strange. I think she went to post something for the nursery and then took the kids for a walk and decided to treat them.
Like mentioned iv not had the balls to say can u not do that as yes I would feel awful if other children were getting things and my poor girl was just watching.
Iv thought of switching nurseries but my daughter is quite settled in here and made friends. If it got worse like the teacher taking them to the shop frequently then I'd consider moving her and clarifying with the nursery if they do this before she enrols.

Cake!

The bastards.

The shop thing sounds a bit weird to me. The birthday cakes come and go in my experience, the last 4-6 weeks has been particularly bad as it's such a popular time for birthdays.

It was cake not a hash brownie

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@Monsterpumpkins yes but there a treat and then there’s a routine of giving kids cake which is no doubt contributing to the childhood obesity crisis. Also if it’s something that’s given every day, the kids know there going to have it and don’t want to wait through their lunch to get it, which results in fussy eaters because they know that in 15 minutes time they’re going to be having some nice cake instead.

I’m all for giving treats - but there’s. a point where it no longer becomes a ‘treat’ as such.

I'm generally very relaxed about things that happen in school / nursery but I'd not be delighted about this. For a birthday, fine, but I don't want them to have cake or chocolate every day at nursery. At one point ours were giving angel delight/eton mess, etc for pudding every day but I think parents must have phoned in as it's switched to fruit or yogurt for pudding.

The shop thing is weird. I don't get my kids treats every time I take them to the shop so I don't want them thinking that that's normal.

My one year old’s at nursery and I find it odd they give him pudding/dessert. He doesn’t need it and it’s probably activated his sweet tooth way sooner than I’d have wanted.

I don’t say anything though. It’s not a big deal in the scheme of things and if it makes their job easier by keeping him full for longer then it’s a small price to pay.