Not sure if maybe I made a fool of myself..

[bobblehead]

My head says no, but I'm paraniod and insecure by nature...

I've being going to a really nice playgroup once or twice a week for around 3 months now. Its quiet, usually only about 4 mums each session and often one of those is my friend who "discovered"it. There is also usually another lady with 2 children exact same ages as mine (baby and toddler). We haven't spoken much, just bits and bobs here and there when kids play in the same area but she seems really nice and dd1 always talks about her ds (think there's a bit of a crush going on) so today I asked her if she'd like to get together after Christmas for a playdate. She seemed a little surprised but said that would be nice so I said I'd give her my number at the next session on Friday (last before Christmas).
Now I feel perhaps I made an idiot of myself as I really don't know her (in fact my friend has talked to her more than me!) and I know nothing about her. The logical part of me says why not? she lives in my neighbourhood, we're both sahm so it would be nice to get together, but the vulnerable bit of me thinks she'll be thinking why on earth is this crazy lady trying to befriend me??!!
What would you think in her position?

Ok reading that back I sound ridiculous

I think you sound like a very friendly person! Love your name BTW!

i'd think how lovely and wish i had been brave enough to give her my number

Nice of you to reach out first, I don't make friends easily and would never reach out first, maybe if it will make you feel better invite your friend that knows her as well.

No, of course you didn't make a fool of yourself. She's robably thrilled to bits that you made the first move and she didn't have to.

do you know, i would be so chuffed.
This could be the start of a lifelong friendship between you both.

I would be so glad if some one actually took the time to consider me to be a nice and approachable enough person to want to give me their number and invite me to become friends.
I would be thrilled.

Give her your number then wait and see what happens.
I would be paranoid too, but then i am paranoid by nature too and i would be thinking "why would she want to be MY friend?"

thankyou!

I'm never usually the type to reach out first either so I suppose thats why I feel a bit uneasy now.

I'll be rally paranoid if she doesn't show up on Friday now though

That is EXACTLY what I'm thinking Deeny!

Or that maybe she's thinking "damn, wish it was her friend!"....

You mad thing!
It sounds lovel and friendly and open.
Heavens,women with small kids need all the help and friendship they can get.

I can remember being crushed whan a mad Aussie physio I met on a flight to the remote part of Turkey we lived in,didn't drop by the following day as I suggested.

She was a groovy young traveller,I was a frumpy mum with tiny whinging kids!

lol Moondog

She'll feel bad when she has kids of her own one day...

I wept!

I was sooooooo fucking lonely and low while dh living it up with fab high flying job.

Haha,can laugh now but wasn't then!!

Poor thing. We are abroad so I know how miserable it is being away from everyone.

Luckily we are in an English speaking country and did the move prekids so I worked and met people that way.

Yes!
I was by the border with Iraq,brand new baby and toddler,about 10 foreigners in the (ultra conservative) city and dh working 12 hours day.
That's how I found MN..

That is exactly the way one makes friends at this stage of your children's lives

Good for you

I did it a lot, made some great friends .. I think most places I went regularly I came out with one good friend ..

I'm sure she is chuffed that you asked her.

Well done you for making the effort.

have you made a fool of yourself?
have y'eck
the surprise you saw would be 'cos most mums at M&T groups are sour old witches like to keep themselves to themselves
good for you, i've done this at M&T groups, and it works sometimes, sometimes not

bless.. wish someone had approached me - rather than waiting 5 years to pluck up the courage myself!(grin)

I would think "that's nice, a play date after Christmas"

you don't sound weird to me.

it's fine, the right thing to do.

i said to the mother of one of dd's friends at nursery yesterday "oh, you must come & play sometime, dd talks about your dd a lot." she said yes please, it'll be february.... i am taking that as a yes!

Well if it's an odd thing to do people must think I'm very odd becuase I do that sort of thing all the time! We moved to a new area a few months ago and I found it really difficult without the support network of my old ante-natal friends. So I just started chatting to people and inviting them over to play. I'm quite shameless about giving out my number. Some come, some don't. Some ask us back, some don't. I hope some will become friends and imagine some won't.

Your invite is lovely. I'd have been really pleased if it had been me. Type of thing I'd have wanted to do but was never brave enough.

No you have done nothing wrong at all of course not! I am always immensely pleased and flattered if someone I don't know too well asks me to come round. It is easy to reciprocate once and then let it drop if you or the children don't click.