Constant viruses, 2yo attends nursery, is this normal?

[itscomplicatedlife]

Our 2yo has been attending nursery 4dpw over a year and I have been ill pretty much every wk Barr the odd 3-4 days then bam another virus again! Had my iron, b12 levels checked all normal, I take extra multivits, selenium, zinc the abs lot and I'm still ill all the time! Dp hardly catches a thing but me and DD are ill constantly! I hardly ever was lll at all before she started nursery, prob got 1-2 colds in a year, atm i get a cold nearly every wk or they drag on for 2-3 and I can't tell if it's the same one or another! is this normal?? If so when the hell does it like ease off?! 🥵

We are the same, 7 months in here and we had a few weeks of relief here or there over summer but since September and the colder weather we’ve been hit hard again. Prior to this I had maybe 3 stomach bugs in the last 20 years of my life and I’ve had 2 in the last 5 weeks. Everything my toddler gets I tend to pick up even if it is a mild version. I just hope after the winter has passed we’ll get a bit of a break, but it’s just getting through winter first! I’m dreading it, I dread sending him into nursery which is awful as it’s so lovely and so good for him.

@KL92xxxx Yes! Me too! I just keep thinking how much more can my body take, I feel so so utterly run down I think I'm in this cycle now because so many are coming at me I can't sort of recover quickly enough before another hits. I got oral thrush and the other just recently too after we all got hand foot and mouth which was so bad, hubby got over it in 10 days mine went on and on then turned in to oral thrush. Just hoping someone can come along and say they experienced this and it got easier!! Not like I'd wish this on anyone iyswim just feel like I don't know any other parents atm getting it as much as I am, it's abs crazy!

Yep I feel the same, my adrenaline is constantly spiking up because there’s always something. It’s kicked off a bout of health anxiety for me too focussed on my toddler I can’t seem to get anything into perspective if he’s even slightly under the weather. I really hope we both get a break soon!

I am in the same boat! My 2.5 yo started dayhome just before summer and it was all good until colder weather hit. She'a had runny nose pretty much non-stop since September. It gets better then it's a new virus. We've had 4-5 colds/fu and a croup. The last one had her coughing so bad that a kid that fell asleep on her own almost all her life is scared to fall asleep now.
My husband is able to fight most of the viruses off but since it's me looking after her when she is sick and kids tend to cough and sneeze right in your face, I get every single one she has. I am also 8 weeks pregnant so my immune system is down. I am just hanging out and living day to day and week to week here. I never know if she's gonna wake up feeling fine or sick again, which means I'm about 4-5 days from being sick myself. Good times.

Not so much me being poorly as I rarely get colds/viruses ect. But when DD started nursery at 10 months she was basically a human snot machine for month and months. I think it really only stopped at about 15 months, now it’s back and she’ll be 2 in December; but I blame winter and teething now.

We have however just gotten over norovirus that was brought home from nursery. Worst days of my life.

My ds is 13 now but I remember him being the same and me questioning if it was normal. It just felt relentless. It did pretty much stop when he started school though.

It's relentless. DS has missed 2 weeks worth of nursery (he's part time) this month alone. I catch everything the kids get so I'm constantly ill and completely exhausted. 😭

@AnyaC84 oh hun I'm sorry it's bloody tough! I'm ill again too! 😓 so so fed up! I'm wondering if I should just not work at all and keep her home until she turns 4 and starts pre school just to let my immune system have a break! I don't know what to do for the best about it, can't really afford not to work but I just feel so worried about what this is doing to me as I feel abs dead on my feet all of the time! She goes to nursery atm 4 dpw, friends whose go 2 dpw say it's nearly as bad with the bugs, just do not know what to do! I'm taking everything I can that I'm aware of I've started eating a green smoothie every day without fail and got turmeric tablets also. Just determined to get my immune system better 🙏🙏🙏

@Tanfastic oh really???? I was hoping would say that!!! How little did this relentlessness sort of feel like it went on for roughly?? It's been 14 months she's been at nursery now and the bugs are still coming thick n fast, I ended up in hospital with low platelets and neutrophils they said are you run down, erm yes!!! Just a bit!!

@Wagglerock oh god it's horrible isn't it! This is the thing your going 2 dpw and they still get it all, lot to be said perhaps for how parenting used to be, I feel like I also hardly see DD it's a lot to get your head around and these damn bugs don't help! I was a child to a sahm i miss those days and hardly ever ill! School they started but at that age kids can fight them but more easily as they're older I don't remember it affecting mom much when I was ill older

I was like this after DS1 started nursery, constantly ill for the first year. Happy to say his immune system and mine seem to have toughened up a bit as I can’t remember the last time I had a cold. It does get better.

@Floopyandtired brilliant!! I hope that'll be me soon it's been nearly 15 months now it's gone on for so long enough x x

@Floopyandtired that's so good to know. I figured our immune systems and getting better. I thought mine was okay but I guess it is, as long as no one coughs in my face directly

@itscomplicatedlife oh poor you! Sending you hugs.
I thought too that may be I should at least keep her home until she is 100% for a bit and then send her back, but it's just not feasible for me to look after a child and work and be miserably pregnant I also keep thinking how much sense does it make to pay for full time care when she is at home half the time sick... oh well, we'll keep taking it day by day and hope these viruses get easier
We got our flu shots last week so I'm hoping that will help too.

@AnyaC84 totally, you're best prob with her being in to get a break atm if you're having to work also, just annoying when we pay for nursery and they end up at home a lot 🙄 I spoke to our nursery earlier about it, they def reckon it's worse this year due to all the lack of mixing and the new mixing so hopefully it'll settle by next year! 🙏 good for you getting the flu shot too, I'm gonna get mine soon as this new cold goes off, but I keep saying that and then another one strikes!! Hope you get on ok though with the pregnancy and yes hopefully these viruses won't be as unrelenting this time next year! 🤞🤞🤞 x x

@itscomplicatedlife thank you! Yes it does seem worse this year. I talked to a nurse when we were getting a Covid test a while back and she mentioned there are some really messy viruses going around now that everyone has been staying away from each other. I hope you get on well and both of you feel better soon! We'll get through it

The first year my kid was in Nursery at least one person in our household was I'll continuously from October through to March. DS managed a triple of whammy of chickenpox followed by an eye infection followed by hand foot and mouth in one month.

It gets better as their immune system builds....

I don't have a toddler but pretty much everyone I know seems constantly unwell at the moment. Seems so much h is circulating now we are all mixing after all the local downs and restrictions are lifted. It is common once your dc start nursery but I'd say it's probably currently worse than normal. Have you tried taking echinacea? I've always found it a great immune booster

I can offer a hopeful story! I had this horribly the first year of my first child being at nursery. It felt completely relentless and I was physically and mentally extremely low. Now a couple of years later my second child has started nursery and, despite him picking up a lot of viruses, I’ve barely caught anything. I can only assume my immune system is now very robust after that baptism of fire!! So there is hope!

We used a childminder and mine were rarely ill. I also think 4 days a week is exhausting for them & when they're tired they pick up more viruses. Could you reduce working days?

It is relentless. The larger the nursery the more children get ill as well. The good news is children who go through large nurseries catch fewer colds in the first few years at school. The bad news is that by the time they hit their teen years the extra immunity is well and truly gone. But I imagine you are not thinking about her teen years now!

Is she in a big nursery with lots of other children and staff?

Hey all thanks for these replies, will try answer best I can to all, yes baptism of fire!! Great description! Christ is all I can say! 🙊🥵 echinacea yes I'm on that also, I literally take as much as I can afford atm it's been an exp year!! She is in nursery with roughly 12 children per day with 1-2 staff, not sure if that's busy or fairly busy..🤷‍♀️

Just feeling so low today, woke up feeling worse than yest, just feel like I see other mums around me breezing it and it's so hard to stay motivated! Finding it hard to stay sane driving myself mad last nt on Instagram seeing everyone's seemingly perfect lives having it all! I know it's fake so someone slap me with a wet wish and tell me to stop being stupid it's Not real but yeah it defeated me last nt along with this stinking cold pfffft, god I'm so depressing! #this is real mom life not #fakeperfectininstalife!

*fish!! 🤦‍♀️

Your nursery is definitely not big. Ours has 60 dc in at the same time sharing a space

@liveforsummer Oh wow!! That is busy!! 😵‍💫