My 13 week old baby will not settle for anyone but me.

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Hi everyone, I’m a first time mom to my 13 week old baby girl. Up until she had her first immunisations at 8 weeks we had no issues with her being around other people (grandparents, family members etc) after her immunisations she was poorly for a week or so with a cold and then diarrhoea. She didn’t see any family and mainly only myself due to daddy being at work but still doing the bedtime routine. She was slightly better after a couple of weeks with our moms but now doesn’t even want her dad to hold her, last night she wouldn’t even accept a bottle from him and was just screaming until she fell to sleep. It’s been the same today with my mom, I know that the immunisations and her being ill were the problem at first I’m her safe place but the last week she’s been a completely different baby. Does anyone have any tips on how to get our baby to rebond with her dad? He’s taking a couple of days off work but we both hate seeing her screaming and not drinking her milk, but she’s fine when handed back to me.

I think it's perfectly normal for her age. If he's off for a couple of weeks she may relax a bit with him but I wouldn't force the bedtime bottle just yet.

Maybe send them out for an hour today or get him to walk her around the garden showing her the plants.

Ultimately though, they have to find their own way together so book in for a hair appointment one day and just make sure they have some time together without you being around.

Thank you, it’s just so strange because he’s always done the night feeds and now the past few days she’s just changed. He’s looking after her solo on Saturday for a couple of hours but also has the day off work tomorrow to spend all day together. Fingers crossed she warms back up to him! X

Aww this was DD (until about age 14 months I’m afraid!) I was breastfeeding though.

I’ve been lucky that my twins (FF) are quite happy with both of us as DH shares the nights with me. Equally they are okay with others too but I think that’s because they have to be, they also spend quite a bit of time in bouncers as I can’t cuddle them as much as I’d like.

I’m sure she will be fine with him for the day, she may cry a bit but that’s okay. Sometimes you just have to go with it. Does she have a dummy?

We have jabs next week so hopefully won’t have the same issue! I don’t have enough hands. 🤣

Oh no @Bumblethebee, I’m hoping it doesn’t last that long! I just feel awful when she’s sobbing and screaming! She doesn’t even cry to be picked up by me she’s quite chilled when it’s just us and was round others before the past few days. Daddy’s always done the night feeds but now she’s a completely different baby with him, I’m hoping she comes back round to him over the weekend with the time off. There’s not been a change in routine apart from not being swaddled but I wouldn’t have thought it would affect her that much? She doesn’t have a dummy either, we have tried but she’s not interested in one and just spits it out.

Fingers crossed for the immunisations, you would need another set of arms to soothe them. I’d absolutely love twins however one is a struggle 😂