I found out a few months ago that my eldest DS (9) had been holding doors open for the class when they're in lines etc...fair enough but the kids had decided that he should do it all the time so for instance a group of girls would walk up to a door, stand there and then shout at DS "well! open it then!"
Also groups of boys had been pushing DS toward the door and ordering him to keep it open for them.
The teachers chose DS to hold the door open for the others everytime they needed someone to do it etc
What annoyed me the most about it was the girls treating him like some scivvy shouting at him to open the door for them as they approached it etc.
So I went a bit mad and told him he was not to hold the door open for anyone other than adults and he was certainly not to "Open" the door for the girls. They are not superior to him and he should not allow them to treat him as such.
I was so cross with him.
Anyway since he started karate his confidence has gone through the roof and his personality has totally changed. He's no longer bullied and after one fight in which he took on "the hardest kid in the year" the kids are treating him completely different.
But I cant stop thinking about the door incident, ok so he was being a "gentleman" but he was also being a "mug" imo and the last thing I want is for him to grow up thinking its ok for women to treat him like a joke.
Did I over-react?