Still undecided about tyring for baby number 5!!

[joedar]

Have been in this dilemma for about a year and half now. Had made a decision re vasectomy but hub cancelled at last minute.

One week I say to him I don't want any more kids especially when I am over loaded with house work or kids are playing up!

Next week I feel so lucky to be blessed with a big family with so many personalitys and would love to add one more to that.

There seems to be equal pros and cons of having another child (if I am lucky enough to fall pregnant again of course). So I am finding it sooooo difficult to come to a decision.

Anybody else been through this and made a decision they were eventually happy with or regretted??

oh yea oh yea........
do you really want my opinion?

kids are fun im now on my 6th and sometimes wonder if im doing the right thing but i now deep down i am so if you want more kids go for it.

respect to you babycarrier and let me make it clear I like large families, but if I could just gently tease... you call yourself babycarrier ffs

i couldnt think what else to call myself so i came up with that somehow. lol
thats how i feel sometimes just a baby carrier or baby machine but like i said i like kids

Blimey I just can't imagine having 4 and contemplating a 5th! That's just so many kids - well for me it would be anyway.

When you're 80 and looking back on your life do you think you'll regret not having another?

Always a good way of thinking about such decisions I find.

I'm with you Joedar .

DC4 is 5 months old, and I keep thinking... will there be any more???

Didn't help that DP really wants one more, and I know that when DD2 is coming up for 2, and I'm coming up for 40 I might have a bit of a 'now or never' panic.

The one thing that holds me back is that it will upset the equilibrium - we have 2 boys, 2 girls.

Hmmm, I just don't know either!

Our 5th is 9 months old (today)

She doesn't feel like the 5th though because we had 4 very close together then she came along 16 years later.

I find it much much easier this time around than last time.

Wow 16 years later! What a gap! You must have plenty of helpers!! Thanks for all the replies and I am still no more decided to be honest.

I am only 30 so I guess I still have a bit of time to decide but I have two older 11 and 9 and 2 younger at 3 and 1 and I don't want to leave a considerable gap again as feel it would be like 3 different families.

Its either now or never! Would feel so releived at the thought of being finished having babies but on the other side I feel incredibly broody for another.

What a contradiction but its how I feel!

I guess there are much worse things I could be worrying over!

However its something that plays on in my mind alot to the point of distraction!!

And baby carrier 6 wow!! are you going to stop now?

At least I am not alone out there foxy even though its 4 girls I have!!

i have five 10 9 6 2 and 5 months
did it because big gap between 3 and4 then spend whole pregnancy in a blind panic about how i would cope
but its been fine he is wonderful and every day i look at him and think how could i have not wanted you
i am stopping now cause although its not that hard to meet the physical needs of another i now find that looking after them all emotionally, finding time for them as individuals is hard, especially as i work too
so i would say go for it - there is little difference between four and five

well thats great to hear Rosy, and fair dues to you!! I know what you are saying about giving them the time emotionally its easier to be there physically, but each comes with there own needs and issues and sometimes need that indivdual time which is hard to do! Especially with teen years fast approaching.

Think I will give it one more shot and live with the consequences!

Go for it!
I have 5......and it's only one more - (unless you have twins )
No seriously, mine are 11, 7, 6, 23 months and 8 months....I don't think that there will be any more, but I am only 26 so may be one day........... [

I have 3 and have lost 2 so feel in my heart a Mum of 5. After we had had our youngest I really wanted another but also knew if I had another I would still want more after that and more after that so thought it best, for health reasons, to stop now.

Good luck with your decision.

Someone once said to me "you never regret the children that you have".

I would have loved number 4, but dh said no and had a vasectomy I think that you should go for it, it's not much harder to do it all for one more when you've already got 4 anyway, on the flipside what about the practicalities, do you have space for another? would you like to drive a minibus?

Just a by-the-by, I went to dh's Grandma's 90th Birthday party today and her 8 children and their children and so on and it was really lovely. Good luck with whatever you choose.

Well it looks as if we have come to a decision one way another, just did a pt and got a BFP!!!

Oh congratulations! How exciting

congratulations - are you hoping for twins

We have five, but the fifth was a bonus baby.

However, she is a joy and we couldn't imagine what it would be like without her.

Five children seems normal to me (it is normal for me). The downside is when you have to fork out for things on an individual basis.