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ilovewashingnappies · 09/12/2007 19:51

Doting Dad is upstairs trying to settle our 3 month old baby girl. She is screaming and screaming. Last few weeks she has cried when he has been the one giving her last feed but when I'm on my own with her {hate saying this] she is fine.

It is definitly not that he is doing anything wrong and he always gives her last bottle except he's been working late lots the last few weeks.

Last night I was upstairs with them and as she kept looking at me husband passed her over saying 'she wants you'. I disagreed but....she settled as soon as I held her.

Ok. So now I'm downstairs as my gorgeous husband has offered me some time out while he settles her. She is not settling...

Do I: go upstairs to help? Really don't want to make him feel bad....but she's really yelling for ages...

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stockingfiller · 09/12/2007 19:54

hold out one of them will give in when dd was tiny dp did and still does infact

SantasLittleToiletFlusher · 09/12/2007 19:58

Oooh I wouldn't have been able to resist taking over offering support.

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ilovewashingnappies · 09/12/2007 19:58

How do you mean?

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ilovewashingnappies · 09/12/2007 19:59

Ok. Its been over an hour now and she's still screaming. I'm close to tears.

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needmorecoffee · 09/12/2007 19:59

my dd did this and I never gave in. She grew up anxious and neurotic. dd2 did the same and I gave in and she's all calm. No idea if its coincidence but if little baby wants mummy, little baby should get

NAB3littlemonkeys · 09/12/2007 20:00

1 hour, 3 months? Get up there!

SantasLittleToiletFlusher · 09/12/2007 20:00

Just that I was a complete control freak and if I could hear crying when DH was supposed to be dealing with them I'd always interfere.Rubbish I know, should have let him get on with it but its very hard not to isn't it?

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ilovewashingnappies · 09/12/2007 20:01

ok, going up....

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needmorecoffee · 09/12/2007 20:01

go get her. Your instcint is telling you she wants mummy.

SantasLittleToiletFlusher · 09/12/2007 20:08

I know, your instinct takes over..I wonder if men have the same reaction? You know, that gut wrenching, I've got to sort them out now thing that women have?

Don't think my DH ever understood how physical that feeling was.

Now they are 5 and 6 I'm more than happy for him to deal with them though!

Acinonyx · 09/12/2007 20:48

Dd was like that as a young baby - to about 9 mo. Dh would look a bit hurt as she reached past him to the door looking for me and just hand her over. But soon after and ever since she became a total daddy's girl (beyond amusing sometimes actually!) so tell your dh not to worry if she associates milk and soothing with you for now.

BeeWiseMen · 10/12/2007 07:49

nappies, just wanted to say don;t either of you feel bad about this. There's a few of us going through exactly this right now so it seems to be a normal stage of development. I think it's just the baby associates daddy with fun and mummy with comfort. Inevitable really, given the difference in the roles you're playing. DP hasn't taken our DD to bed for about a month now cos their's just no point putting us all through it and she's nearly 6mo. I have my moments too because now she can be screaming and shouting at me all afternoon, then daddy walks though the door and she's all smiles because daddy = playtime. TBH, I think I'm getting the sticky end of the wicket here .

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