Wish I didn’t want 3 kids but I still get broody

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I have two kids close in age, only 1 and 2 years. I keep thinking about the third even though l could list a 100 reasons to stick at two . I feel jealous of people who feel happy two and done. I’m sahm but they start full time nursery age 3, so I keep thinking of best time to have my third. Having two at home full time has been really hard so want a third when both are at school but also want a close age gap so enjoy same activities.

There is so so many cons, from 3 is a crowd, to expense, to getting a new car, sharing a bedroom , I hate the under 2 age! It’s boring! And yet more years of sleep deprivation and not being able to get a job, might end up being a sahm forever because wrap around care expense not worthwhile. I also have hardly any support or babysitting. I have a
Boy and girl so not much anticipation on the gender. I may get broody again in years to come, when the 3 are older and a baby seems new and exciting again, definitely don’t have room for 4!

Yet in my heart I think of having a lot of fun and a party atmosphere when they are older, 3 adult children is better than 2 as they may not stay close to home. Excited over the anticipation of a new baby and hopefully feeling complete after third is born

I know there is many more cons and will probably be happier sticking at two, but when I had my first I couldn’t wait to have a second, now my second is 1, I can’t wait for a third. I wanted to see anyone who still gets broody but know it’s not the right choice

@yellowgingham he has new clothes yes but he has a lot of his older brothers things to. If this makes sence

3 is too many. Christmas meet up with 3 siblings - we now 15 people. Even with a large house you can’t comfortably put up that many for long.

Also environmentally. We stopped at 2 and have a lovely close vibe with our teens who are same sex close in ageand get on (broadly bar some bickering). Has meant we have been able to do a lot as a family (travel theatre activities etc) which would have been much harder with a younger child around.

Yeah the hand me down thing ends - expense of teens is considerable

[quote chocolatethunder]@yellowgingham he has new clothes yes but he has a lot of his older brothers things to. If this makes sence [/quote]
Hand me downs. Not hammy downs.

I have a 14yo and 11yo, 6yo and 4yo. I had two pairs! Much easier than doing it all at once in some ways.

I couldn't have coped having three or four all close together.

I have two. Wanted two. Never wanted three. Would be totally impractical for our lifestyle, work commitments and more.

But both DH and I keep dropping into conversation about having a third.

It’s a lovely idea but I have to think with my head. It might never go away but I love us as we our and wouldn’t want to rock that boat.

Also - loving ‘hammy downs’

Why are they going to FT nursery aged 3 if you're a SAHM? or are you going back to work then?

I think due to the age of your kids you’re a little naive to the amount of work 3 will be come school age- homework and activists and play dates- 2 you may still have a life, 3? Forget it

So your oldest is 2 and you hate the under 2 bit? I think you better wait and see how you like the next few years or so

Excitement over the anticipation of a new baby is one of the worst reasons I’ve ever heard to actually make a new human 😂

I think nobody ever feels done, I totally battled this when my youngest was three . The world is defined for families for four, and in remember really feeling this when I was growing up

I am soo broody too it's breaking me at times when I see babies and clothes! Also a lot of friends around me are pregnant or have had 3rd but they have said it's not easy! Also the changing of cars and possibly moving home etc it's all too daunting. I have 2boys as well there's no guarantee of a girl but also I wouldn't mind 3 boys! Some day to get a dog instead....hmmmm

I get it OP. I wanted three.

However, I am the third of three and DH is the oldest of three. We decided not to. Make of that what you will!

I always thought I'd have more (I have 2). Then my eldest was diagnosed with cancer when he was 6 and we spent 4 years in and out of hospital a LOT, my husband was travelling and I often had DD with me as well - she and I shared the tiny single parent (I mean, thank goodness the hospital let me have her with me!) and 3 of us would be cooped up in a hospital room for days. And I stopped ovulating, which I think was nature's way of telling me that I wouldn't have coped with more, and nature was right. They're older now, and I'm still thrilled just to have two. They're super close, and I have time to do all I need to do with both of them and do a job that I love. The families I know who have more than two children tend to make it work because they have help in terms of a nanny/ housekeeper/ plus private school with longer days and all extra curriculars done there.

Tiny single bed. We shared a bed. Not a parent....

I have two girls, 5 and 1. I would love a third. I always imagined i'd have three. I grew up with 2 brothers so thats what I'm used to but now I've got two I just don't think we could afford a third without having to give up certain things, holidays, day out, even a rare date night. I think I could give my girls a better life if I don't have anymore babies. My head understands this but my heart still longs for another, I'm convinced if I had another I would feel like my family is complete. My husband says its up to me, he's happy either way. I just hope at some I can get over this broodiness.