Struggling with 20 week old baby

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I don't know what I'm expecting from posting this but I need to get it out somewhere...

I have a 20 week old baby boy and a daughter who is almost 3 years old.

I am finding it so difficult with my son, I am miserable all the time and to be honest I really wish I never had him.

He doesn't sleep well, fights his naps, I am constantly shushing my daughter in fear she disturbs him and it's not fair on her so I feel so horrible for having him.

I feel like I have just messed up all our lives.

I have a wonderful husband who is currently out walking my son to get him to sleep but no matter how many times he says we will get through this stage I still don't feel any different.

Anyone else feel or felt similar? Does it get better?

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It will get better, but he’s only 20 weeks so it’s going to be some time before that happens. Seems like your DH is supportive, that’s good.

Hopefully someone with better advice will be along soon

Sorry you are struggling OP.

Is the main issue his lack of sleeping or the effect going from one to two DC has had on your family?

I really don't know...for me and I know this sounds awful but it's the noise...any noise he makes I get so anxious and burst into sweat, I just want it to stop and for him to be quiet, I know he's a baby so that's not going to happen

Oh lovely, it will get better but it sounds like a chat with the GP might be an idea, the anxiety you describe sounds like postnatal anxiety and it is horrid but there’s lots that can help. Sending a big hug, you will get through this xxx