DS invited to a part - dilemma

[hercules1]

Ds is in Year 7 and has been asked to go to a party with about 5 or 6 boys, none of whom we know at all as not from his primary. The plan is (according to a hand written note from his friend) is that they will go out somewhere for the day without any adults then have a sleep over.

Do we let him go?

I wouldnt have a problem if we knew any of them.

I'd get the telephone number of the mother and at least have chat with her and find out whats going on.

DD had a party for her birthday this year, with a new Yr 7 and I phoned the parent myself to assure her what was going on.

I will do that but it's more about them all going off somewhere in a fairly largish group of lads that worries me.

i wouldnt

Whereabouts are they wanting to go? Is it somewhere quite contained - cinema, bowling, etc?

Is your DS used to going out and about without an adult?

How well does DS know the group of boys?

Re. the sleep over - I'd need to have spoken with or met the parents to see what was happening, and to make sure I felt comfortable witht hat aspect.

I wouldn't.

I don't thik I'd be happy with dd going out all day without adults, but it really depends on where they're going. she does go the pictures with them on their own, but one of us mums takes them there and another picks them up. I think you need to find out exactly what all day means and also where they are intending on going.

Just interested, but those of you that say simply 'I wouldn't', how old are your lo's? Just being nosy!

11 year olds?

no way

if I knew the 'gang' then maybe

I wouldn't.

A trip to the cinema or bowling, yes.
Somewhere that I could drop them off, and know that the other parents are picking them up to take them to their house for the sleep over.

But not a whole day without any structure.

My DCs are 11 and 9.

My dc are 20y,17y,16,15y,12y,11y,9y,7y,4y.

hmmm

I'd at least speak to the parent

I'd definitely check where he was planning to sleep (to make sure an adult was going to be at the house and would make sure they all got in!).

THe note says bowling or something else perhaps.

Note handwritten by friend
I would definitely want to speak to a parent at least. Would need much more info and reassurance.

Just seen that invite was handwritten by friend. Would definitely be checking it all out with friend's mum and clarifying exactly what was happening and when.

Blimey Juule! You have NINE children! Do you have a television?

That's what i dont like - the no structure thing.

No I wouldn't. Even if I knew the other boys, I'd still be checking it out with the parents of the birthday boy. (DDs are 14 and 11)

It may be completely fine, but you will keep worrying until you speak to the parent. When I phone this mum to tell her that I was taking the girls to the pictures and dropping them in the foyer and picking them up 2 & 1/2 hours later in the same place, she was very relieved. Her dd had just said 'we're going to the pictures on Friday night!'