Really struggling adapting to school :(

[november90]

Just after some reassurance or even just a listening ear!

My son started reception on sept. We've had a few teething issues, which have mainly due to his uniform and getting him dressed because he hates it (🙈) but he's made some progress since day 1. I just feel like I'm really struggling to adapt to school and our new routine. I miss the chat with the nursery teachers and the sort of open door conversation. I miss our week days off together, (even though I used to feel pressure to find activities before school). I feel like I've lost a massive chunk of him; when he comes home he's not wanting to do anything and his behaviour has been all over the place. In fact the behaviour has been awful. He's grown up SO much in such a short space of time.
Ong how clingy do I sound?! I'm a single parent but dad is still involved. He's a bit of a Disney dad and him going to school hasn't impacted his childcare, just mine. Just feeling a bit self conscious, tonnes of mum guilt and just a bit sad 🙈
Any other reception mums feeling the same

Mine have been in school for a while now but I do get that feeling you're experiencing.

Have you got things planned to do when he's at school? If you're at home one plus is that it will be easier to sort Christmas put when he's at school

Yes I feel the same OP.
DS spent the first week or two saying he didn't want to go to school, he did stop but we've had a couple of mornings when he's cried at drop off
I feel as if I don't see him any more; he used to go to nursery 3 full days a week, now he's at school 5 days, goes to after school club a couple of days, and doesn't want to do much after school on the other days or at weekends. Understandable as it's a big adjustment for him but a bit sad for us parents.
We were never allowed to visit the school or meet his teacher before he started. We had a very brief rushed visit to the classroom on the first day of term. But I feel I have barely any idea about what the school and people are like compared to nursery which we knew well as he'd been going for years including pre covid.
I also find it stressful having to do the school run twice a day every day, having to be there at fixed times rather than nursery which was whenever we wanted basically.
It's a big change isn't it and while it's lovely for them to be progressing to the next stage and learning, it's definitely bittersweet for us parents.
Sorry for rambling but you're not alone!

I was at a loss at first, I went back to work in the January

I think reception is optional op. So if you wanted to go part time you probably could negotiate that with the school? Maybe just Mon-Thurs this term? If he's really finding it tough it might be a good idea.

My DD has just started too and is enjoying it a lot. But weekends and evenings are about quiet recovery for sure. I've sort of written off this term.

Thank you for the replies! So reassuring to hear others feeling the same!
I think maybe I'm still trying to fit Too much in... but it's just so hard because when he comes home and does nothing I feel so much mum guilt :(
His behaviour has also changed... he used to love nipping out with me everywhere but today he had tantrums when I asked him to come to two places :(
We did have some lovely quality time though swimming just us two, very much needed to reconnect ♥️