My toodler is pushing

[Marvl1719]

A month and two weeks ago we had a baby and my 2.5 year old is been having a very hard time. Some things are getting a bit better but I got told in nursery now thathe is pushing other children a lot , before the baby was born , they just told me god things about him but now is this. I am not sure what to do. Help!

Sorry, nothing of use to add, other than "toodler" has just become my new favourite word

Mine did exactly the same thing at exactly the same age at around the same point after getting a sibling. I got myself incredibly worked up about it. We did do some helpful things - we bought a couple of books about kind hands that he seemed to respond to - but mostly it was just a brief phase that passed. Six months on I can't remember the last time nursery said he'd pushed another child and I had literally forgotten it was an issue we had until I saw your post, so I wish I'd not lost sleep over it!

Ignore the bad and praise good behaviour. Redirect when he's being unkind and remind that we're gentle.
They've had huge upheaval that they can't rationalise and they're acting out. It's entirely normal and understandable. I know you're exhausted and frustrated but your toddler needs your patience and understanding right now, they're whole world has been turned upside down and they need a bit extra.

Frankly nursery should be able to deal with pushing. Agree a strategy with them and stick to it. Remind them that they've a lot going on at home and it's temporary, thank them for their patience and stop worrying about it.

Loving toodler as well 😬

Sounds normal I’m afraid when a new baby arrives