Is anyone free to chat and maybe a handhold?

[foreverinadaze]

I've posted a bit about my little girl but today we are in hospital and I'm feeling like it's all my fault and covid means my husband can't join.

My daughter learnt today how to climb out of her cot and fell down and caught her head and face on the car seat as she went down. Ive been meaning to find somewhere else to put it for weeks. Weve been in a and e since half 11. The nurse says she will need the cut on the side of her face gluing but the doctor will confirm. They've given her some pain relief and keep popping in to check her.

I know there busy and I'm not complaining. But I feel so alone. They've said they will get to us as soon as and cuts and bruises on the face always look worse. The nurses are wonderful.

I think they were discussing maybe an xray. Shes alert and responsive and is determined to get the bandage off her face. It's the left side of her temple and it looks like she might have a black eye tomorrow.

I just feel like the world's worst parent

Ah bloody hell my heart absolutely goes out to you. For you, I am sure this feels terrible, but look at your daughter, totally unbothered by anything but her bandages. It really sounds like this will be superficial and nothing long lasting. My mum dropped a chair on my head. Massive gash on my head. I don't blame her any more than your daughter would blame you. Accidents happen. Sorry you are alone but I am with you in the virtual world and holding your hand and telling you, "you are a brilliant mum."

I think toddlers falling out of cots is almost a right of passage! Accidents happen. You know now and can plan so it doesn’t happen again.

Oh bless you, sending a hand hold
They do always look worse than they are on the face, these things happen though so don’t blame yourself, and she’s in the right place.

When my middle dd (now 15) was a baby she toppled off my bed and landed head first on an upturned plug! It was bleeding loads and looked awful but once it was glued it was actually just tiny and didn’t scar. Although her sisters still call her socket to this day!

Been there bought the t-shirt with DD2 -
She's face planted onto a plastic toy splitting her eyebrow area age 1
Face planted into a child chair - badly cut lip age 3
Fell into a water feature - fractured her foot age 3
Tripped in the playground and basically used her face to slow herself down age 4. The photos are horrific but all grazing that healed in a month or two.

She comes home with a note from the school nurse almost weekly. She's almost 9. I had to take her to A&E a few weeks ago due to her being utterly dopey and putting something right down inside her ear canal...

Her older sister has yet to need an A&E visit but did roll off the bed twice before she could walk giving herself a nice egg on the forehead.

You can't watch them every second of every day. Even when you are watching them you can't always catch them .

It was an accident. Don’t be hard on yourself. One of mine fell out but was fine the other one shows no signs of bothering too, they are all so different! If she’s still quite young and you want her to stay in cot then a sleeping bag can stop climbing and if they can get out of it then a T-shirt over sleeping bag or depending on design put it on inside out! Hope she gets on ok and you are seen soon.

Thank you. Shes just discovered climbing onto the sofa. I didnt think the cot would be so soon! The nurse popped back and replaced her bandage and apologised again for the doctor delays.

I didnt know head wounds bled so much but nurse says it's normal.

Little girl is quite happy currently. They have given her her very own bandage to hold and a cup of milk.

Bloody so grateful for the NHS. They are absolutely amazing.

Aww poor sausage. She'll be fine. I think with facial wounds with little DCs they like to get plastics to come and oversee things, to reduce risk of scarring. But that just means a big wait for you as they are likely busy elsewhere.
DCs have accidents.
It's partly how they learn. (Not advocating letting them play in the street, obviously)

That does make sense about the plastics. A doctor has just been in and said he thinks it's best if a specialist sees her so I assume that's what he means.
Shes been given the ok to have a little bit of food so shes got a pack of quavers. Very healthy I know!

I have 3 DD. If I start listing all their accidents I will be here all day but that happens when kids live life at a fast pace. Accidents happen. Please dont worry about it. Be kind to yourself though. She will be fine and you will spend hours playing 'what if' and feeling terrible

I just feel like I should have been watching her more. I started a great nap routine with the help of you guys here and I put her down and I thought she was asleep. So I left the room. Not even 30 seconds later there was this bang and crying.
My husband got there first and he's so much calmer than me so it's good he did.
I just can't stop thinking I should have been there. I knew she was climbing but it never occurred to me that she would try the cot.
Shes fallen asleep now. With her quaver in one hand and her bandage in the other.
I keep telling myself shes ok. The chat here is helping so much
Thanks guys

Ask DH to take a look at the cot to see if the base can be dropped to a lower level. A sleeping bag (grobag) can help but it's not impossible for the truly determined and a couple of teddies make a useful "boost".

You can train a baby with a very firm No - it helps to have a camera monitor though so they think you have eyes in the back of your head.

What is more important is a stair gate or a stair gate on her room. It's one thing to fall out of a cot (hopefully onto something more cushioned if it happens again but if she starts wandering then you will have other hazards to consider.

Plastics really commonly called in for small children to make sure the best testament is given and scarring is minimised.

We have stair gates at the top and bottom of the stairs, leading to the bathroom and the kitchen so all good there. Funnily enough I posted about sleep sack last week I think. I've just taken it off because the weather has got warmer. Sods law right there!
I will message my husband, I think the cot goes lower but he will probably know better than me.
We do have a camera but it hooks to the ipad and I thought hey she's gone down for a nap really quick, bet I can grab a cup of tea before going to get the ipad.
It's a mistake and I know deep down jts a mistake but I think seeing her hurt for the first time.. like properly hurt just really got to me today. Weve been moved to a side room. I dont care at all about the wait. Just want her to be ok

Ah op I’m so sorry for you, hospitals are so draining. It was an accident please don’t blame yourself it happens to the best of us! When my DS was about 3 months old my phone fell out of my shirt pocket into his head when I leaned over in cot and he screamed the place down, god I felt so guilty but he was fine! Hope you get seen soon. Xxx

Waiting to go to xray now. Want to scan her face to check for any breaks. Feeling upset. I hope nothings broken.

My eldest aged 20 months face planted from a cot top changing table onto a wooden floor and broke her nose. I felt terrible explaining to the consultant at A&E that we still used a changing table to keep her still while we dressed her.

When the consultant turned to her and said ‘oh dear, look at your poor nose from when you fell’, DD1 laughed and said ‘No falling, I jumped. Funny!’. The consultant laughed and said toddler head injuries are a daily occurrence at A&E.

I did not laugh.

We got home about 11 last night. She had a plastics doc look at her face who glued it back together and she has got a massive black eye. There should be minimal scarring and thankfully nothing is broken.

Shes now wide awake eating her body weight in toast and shouting at the neighbour hood cats.

Thanks everyone

Glad she's ok.
She will recover faster than you will!
This can become one of your family legend stories

Just came across this. So glad she's ok! I picked up DD (4m) from her co-sleeping crib for a night feed the other night, and put her down in my bed just to unhook my bra. In the 2 seconds it took, she rolled off the bed and her head went into the gap between the end of the crib and the nightstand, so her neck was caught and her head was mm from the corner of the nightstand. She was fine, but I felt awful. Babies and toddlers just launch themselves towards danger.

(BTW, the crib isn't incorrectly positioned, it was just the really awkward way she fell half-into it from above.)