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Not so sweet afterall

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Immortal · 08/12/2007 14:47

My son goes to karate twice a week but a couple of weeks ago he went on a different day to normal and there was another kid there that we've not seen before.

He was such a sweet looking thing, mixed race so masses of black curly hair and a very innocent expression. My son got partnered with him and he seemed so gentle and cute.

Anyway after the session my son mentioned that he wasn't keen on him as he kept hitting him hard on purpose when the sensei wasn't looking. I said "don't be daft, it was probably accidental" and he just gave me a "look".

Anyway he continued to go on this day every week (despite saying that this kid puts him off) and I didn't see a problem, still thought the kid was cute but then last week we saw him on his way TOO karate and oh my god...was I mistaken!

The first thing I heard him say was "Fcking hell!" in responce to something his 'mum' said (which was not even picked up on by her) before she said something about "hey did you see her fcking eyebrows? stupid cow!" and he replied with "oh for f*cks sake I'd smack the silly cow" to which she replied "oi language!" and then laughed!! .

They had a little kid with them (about 3 years old) who was running behind us shouting "piss off! piss off!" and kicking puddles at the back of my legs.

I was so shocked then to top it off the lad from karate said something about "oh look, theres poofter boy martin" (about another club member) to which my son said "don't let him hear you say that, he's nearly a black belt" and the kids turned around and said "shut the fuck up, you" . His mother and the bloke she was with then started ripping the piss out of my coat as they were walking behind me.

I've NEVER experienced anything like this before and I live in a bad area. Once he was in karate itself he turned back into the "sweet kid" again but I decided to stay and watch the lesson and heard him say to my DS "your brother is a lower belt then you and he's still being cocky with you, I'd smack the little shit..." and then later he said "oh I cant wait to fight him...I'm going to knock him out, he's got a right big gob". (about my youngest ds).

Then I witnessed what I had missed before and that was this kid hitting my DS full force whenever he thought nobody was looking. The instructor however HEARD the blows and told him off (but to actually 'hear' them...that shows how hard he was hitting him).

None of the other stuff was said in ear shot of the instructor so I was mortified when he went over to the kid and asked him to train at the other classes my DS goes too. I'm worried he is going to put DS off. I'm feeling put off so I'm sure he must be but then why should he have to give it up for some thug, the idea of karate was to teach him to stand up to bullies.

Am I being precious?

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Immortal · 08/12/2007 14:50

Just to add, the kids are 9. My youngest is 7 (and the kids seems to have a huge problem with him).

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Immortal · 08/12/2007 14:50

sorry, the KID has a problem with him, not kids.

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DingDongJeremyOnVile · 08/12/2007 14:50

They sound awful.

Is there another Karate club nearby?

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DingDongJeremyOnVile · 08/12/2007 14:52

Oh, just re-read....can't you just switch DS back to his original days?

Immortal · 08/12/2007 14:52

no and my DS loves the club, its a very good club apart from this and all the members are like a big family so I think if I took him out of the club he'd just give up karate which is the last thing I want

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Lizzylou · 08/12/2007 14:53

Gawd! Either find another karate group or speak with the Sensei to make sure he is not paired up with your DS again.

You are NOT being precious at all, but your boys are precious and need to be kept away from this boy.

Immortal · 08/12/2007 14:53

sorry crossed posts.

I have switched him back now but the other kid has said he will come to the other classes too.

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coldtits · 08/12/2007 14:53

have you told the instructor?

The child sounds like a revolting little shit, being raised by revolting big shits.

coldtits · 08/12/2007 14:54

You need to tell the sensai I am fairly sure this is against the basic priinciples of karate

OverMyDeadStuffedTurkey · 08/12/2007 14:56

Poor kid. He's 9 and behaving like that?! Obviously doesn't have very good role models

OverMyDeadStuffedTurkey · 08/12/2007 14:57

I don't think you're being precious either. Tell DS to ask to be paired with someone else.

Immortal · 08/12/2007 14:58

I don't want to seem like I'm trying to start trouble (and tbh I'm worried about my windows being put through etc if they find out I've said anything!)

Last week the kid had began bullying another boy and had turned 2 other boys onto him too. My eldest ds is quite sensitive and quiet but my youngest is like foghorn leghorn so it wont be long before he says something to him and by the looks of it...get beaten up for it.

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Lizzylou · 08/12/2007 15:02

You won't be causing trouble, but if your boys enjoy Karate and want to keep on going, you need to do something.
Can't you be honest with the sensei and tell him your concerns (esp about any retribution), if he kept an eye on this boy he may end up being warned/excluded and then let his parents work out what form of revenge they'd inflict on a Karate expert, not you!

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