How closely do you monitor child with fever?

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DD 7 has been poorly (not COVID). Fever was up to 40 degrees one night and DH and I both tired and stressed disagreed with how to deal.

She was so poorly shaking with fever that once it came down a bit and she fell asleep I wanted to stay in her room and doze on the end of her bed just to keep an eye, or maybe come back to bed but check on her regularly.

DH was of the opinion she'd call if she needed us and we should just leave her once asleep. He thinks I'm making more drama by checking etc but she was so unwell and I didn't feel comfortable not to

40 is a high temperature, especially for a child. When DS was that age and unwell I would sleep with him in the spare room.
How is being concerned for an ill child causing drama?

A temperature of 40 I would have called GP or 111 if it was outside of GP hours. I would have given paracetamol or ibuprofen, but checked regularly.

Dh would be in her bed and she would be in with me ... a 40 degree temp is not something that I would just go back to bed with . I would probably be taking her temp every hour anyway to ensure that it had gone down and not spiked again . Especially if it had gone to 40

Im with you OP, I would go in every few hours to check on her or have her in bed with me.
I can get quite anxious over these things though so I might not be the best barometer of what’s normal.

Definitely stay close, things can spiral and change fast under those circs. I speak from (traumatic, very nearly tragic) experience. It’s very unlikely of course, but not really worth the risk.

Well fwiw I did/do what you suggest always.

You simply can’t predict how they will do.

If I felt it was safe I did go back to bed but set alarms for every couple of hours and checked on sick child sitting in with them for half an hour or so if I felt necessary to monitor. Parenting is tough some times but it’s still to be done 🤷‍♀️

I always have them in bed with me when poorly (and most of the time when not!) so I can keep an eye on them. I wouldn't be able to sleep anyway if they were somewhere else and unwell.

Mine would have ended up in bed with me while DH would be in their bed.

At that age they're not quite there for getting help if required.

I would sleep in the room with them if they had that kind of temp. I'm not sure why your husband is annoyed with your approach though, even if he thinks it's over cautious, surely over cautious is better than not cautious enough when it comes to sick kids?