Am I being stupid?

[Factorturtle]

So basically I’m getting pretty peeved off with my FIL and my husband tbh! My LG is now 3months old and since she was well basically born I’ve had crass comments from FIL which consist of I’m :-

Overprotective
I never let anyone else hold LG
I never let FIL ‘have’ my LG even for an hour
Whenever I ring husband to see where they are FIL will shout things in the background like yes she’s still ok/alive about LG

I have told my OH that I do not appreciate these comments and that they do upset me especially as when she was young I did have PND so I think that’s a factor that his comments really irk me more. I’ve also pointed out to OH that neither my mum or dad make these comments and they see my LG a lot less than his parents (they literally live around the corner. Yay 🙄)

Prior to my LG being born I always had a good relationship with my in laws but now I dread seeing them as I know a comment will come. Like this morning which has now resulted In me and OH having a massive argument as I’m ‘stupid’ and ‘over sensitive’.

That sounds really horrible. Where do you think this is coming from?

That’s really cruel OP. Your baby is still tiny, of course you are going to feel protective. Does your husband not stick up for you when he says this stuff?

I think it’s a combination of my FIL thinking he’s really funny (he’s always thought this. I think otherwise) and it being their first grandchild so I’ve tried to make allowances and I’ve also mentioned it several times in the past to my OH explaining that I don’t find it funny and he needs to stop. OH will tell me that I’m being stupid and overreacting as FIL is only joking. It really is causing a lot of tension between us as I say it’s caused an argument this morning!

It's only a joke if you are both laughing otherwise it's bullying.

@PerseverancePays

It's only a joke if you are both laughing otherwise it's bullying.

Couldn't agree more. There's just no need for this agro. Once he knows you don't find the "joke funny" any decent person would apologise and stop. Your DH needs to be a lot more supportive.

Start calling fil a baby snatcher and say you are just joking.