Development question for 13 month old

[Ayd7815]

Hello all my daughter is 13 months and I have a few concerns with her.

My concerns are:
1. Problem: She doesn’t point yet. For things she wants or showing me anything!
2. Problem: She doesn’t bring me toys or show me toys…but will copy what I do with her toys sometimes
3. Problem: Not a lot of joint attention. Like 3 point joint attention… but she will sometimes try to get my attention by staring at me to look at her.
4. Problem: Likes playing alone… but does climb on top of her brother and laugh and tease him. She plays alone happily as long as I’m in the room. If I leave the room she gets upset
5. Problem: no words yet. But says ‘mum mum’ when she looks at me and wants me to pick her up.

She’s walking now and in in early stages where she’s learning to walk better. I don’t have any concerns with her physical milestones and eating or sleeping etc

It’s more her language development

She’s learned to copy some sounds we make and expressions but this is since 12 months.
She’s copies what I do when I press buttons on her toys. If I press a button or something similar she will copy this.

She’s very smiley and loves to laugh. And loves peekaboo. And will even do this herself.
She laughs a lot and gives good eye contact when I play with her or tickle her or kiss her etc

She’s very cuddly and wants to be around me all the time. She seeks me out and sits on my lap to play and always cry’s for me to be with her.

She understands things phrases like ‘come to mummy’ she responds to her name. If I point at something and show her she looks at object.

She can clap since 8 months well
Waves bye bye sometimes only.
Puts her ups out for me to pick her and if she wants something out of reach she puts arm out and tries to grab it but no pointing.

She babbles too. But not all the time. She loves screaming. (Happy screaming)

I know there are positives but I’m more concerned about her pointing and joint attention. Is this a warning sign at this age? Do I have to be concerned?

I think a lot of these are things that you'd expect to see emerge over the next few months, but don't need to about worry yet. Some children are pointing by a year, quite a lot seem to start pointing somewhere between 13-15 months, and I think it's considered late after 18 months (which is ages yet from your daughter's perspective). And if she's looking at what you point at, she's already partway there.

Words, it's an even longer timeframe. Lots get a word or two around now, lots say virtually nothing until they're two, or slightly after. My understanding is that as long as their understanding is age appropriate (which it sounds like hers is), try not to worry about lack of words.

Playing alone I'd maybe keep a vague eye on, but it sounds like she's pretty social and wants people's attention in other ways, and I know my wee one went through phases of playing more or less by herself, just depending on what she was interested in at the time.

Doesn't sound concerning
But ask h v to review and if needs be refer
Since wait list are long

@skkyelark

I think a lot of these are things that you'd expect to see emerge over the next few months, but don't need to about worry yet. Some children are pointing by a year, quite a lot seem to start pointing somewhere between 13-15 months, and I think it's considered late after 18 months (which is ages yet from your daughter's perspective). And if she's looking at what you point at, she's already partway there.

Words, it's an even longer timeframe. Lots get a word or two around now, lots say virtually nothing until they're two, or slightly after. My understanding is that as long as their understanding is age appropriate (which it sounds like hers is), try not to worry about lack of words.

Playing alone I'd maybe keep a vague eye on, but it sounds like she's pretty social and wants people's attention in other ways, and I know my wee one went through phases of playing more or less by herself, just depending on what she was interested in at the time.

Thanks for your reply. I think she still has some time. But I wish there was just joint attention atleast. There is in other ways. It's more like showing me things. Like eg. She will find her toy and come sit in my lap and play with it. It's her favourite place.

@Embracelife

Doesn't sound concerning But ask h v to review and if needs be refer Since wait list are long

I hope it's not concerning. I havnt heard from my health visitor since she was 6 weeks tbh. I know how bad the waiting lists are. Also her whole first year I wasn't concerned. She pretty much followed her milestones. Physically early even. Her imitation had me worried for a bit but she's doing this more and more. Now it's joint attention and pointing etc

Send her to nursery or childminder for another opinion

She sounds fine to me, just like my daughter. IIRC she clapped at about 10 months, didn’t point til 14/15 months and didn’t wave until 18 months. She’s 2 now and does all 3, can speak in sentences etc and is a very happy and sociable little girl. If 12 months is ‘average’ for these things then half of children do them later

The fact she’s emotionally responding to you is the important bit, and it sounds like she is doing that

@Glassofshloer

She sounds fine to me, just like my daughter. IIRC she clapped at about 10 months, didn’t point til 14/15 months and didn’t wave until 18 months. She’s 2 now and does all 3, can speak in sentences etc and is a very happy and sociable little girl. If 12 months is ‘average’ for these things then half of children do them later

The fact she’s emotionally responding to you is the important bit, and it sounds like she is doing that

Thanks so much for your reply. It really helps. I just hope she does these soon! Your daughter sounds lovely!

Awww thanks, she is but I’m biased it’s hard to relax when you see other babies the same age doing things your baby isn’t doing. I remember her turning 1 in the summer and obsessing over it a bit, then I relaxed and told myself I would only worry if she wasn’t doing them by Christmas at 18 months old. By Christmas she was doing all of them just at her own speed.

@Glassofshloer

Awww thanks, she is but I’m biased it’s hard to relax when you see other babies the same age doing things your baby isn’t doing. I remember her turning 1 in the summer and obsessing over it a bit, then I relaxed and told myself I would only worry if she wasn’t doing them by Christmas at 18 months old. By Christmas she was doing all of them just at her own speed.

That's exaclty how I'm trying to calm myself down. I hope she get its soon! X

How is you baby now?

@Ayd7815 do you have an update xx

@Ayd7815 bump x