Weekend away. Can I? Really???

[AnotherGo123]

Two DC - (2yr and 6 months). Pregancies plus pandemic mean I haven't been on a night out or been drunk for nearly 3 years

My friends have booked a night away in London. One evening and then stay overnight in hotel.

I can tell my DH doesn't want to stop me going but he is terrified. Let's just say he doesn't seem very happy for me

The baby sleeps reasonably well at night (one wake but goes back to sleep) but he isn't very keen on his bottle. He will take milk from the bottle but he generally kicks off after a few sips (he is used to boob). He has started eating some solids

The weekend is planned for just over 3 weeks time.

My friends will be so angry with me if I try to duck out. I don't want to duck out. But my DH is not v. good with baby for some reason - he is v affectionate but rubbish at getting him to settle and doesn't seem to want to practice with the bottle. I try to practice but of course baby kicks off cos he can smell milk on me.

I really don't want to leave baby if he's going to be distressed. But also it's only one night.

Go! Just go and enjoy being an adult for an evening. Have breakfast too. Your DH could practice with the bottle in advance whilst you keep out of the way.

When DD was 3 and DS 18 months I went abroad for three nights and left DH to it. Brilliant time away and they were all fine at home.

Just go.
Your baby will be fine.
It’s time his father learned how to be one.
It’s time that he learned that sometimes parenting is hard and stressful. 24 hours in charge isn’t going to kill him.

No time like the present. DH might not enjoy it, but he'll cope.

Go! DH needs to step up otherwise you'll never be able to go anywhere.

Do it! It’ll be good for all of them and a bonding experience without you to take over. Enjoy some time to yourself xx

Bloody hell, that’s a long time without a night out with your friends. Throw that martyr coat off and let this be the start of some fun times with friends.

Can you really respect a man who can’t look after his own children? That would make me feel the ick!

I'd start going for a walk in the evening around a time the baby needs a feed - your husband can practice with the bottle without you there smelling of milk. But tbh, if you're able to express milk/baby will take formula, a night won't be a disaster, however it turns out. And it will be good for your husband to bond with the baby.

The first night I left DD overnight with DH (Breastfed, co-sleeing baby, about 9 months) she woke up a few times, screamed at him in rage for 10 minutes, gave in and grudgingly drank a bottle, then did the same a couple of hours later. She had never knowingly consumed milk from a bottle before! She was in absolutely fine happy form the next day, and completely unscarred.

Absolutely go!! Your DH will cope and he should be persevering with the bottle to give you a break anyway. I would suspect he may be quite happy baby won’t take a bottle so he doesn’t have to do the night feed!! My DS seems to sense when I’m not in the house and will take a bottle happily, maybe start going out for a walk for your DH to try a feed.

Parenting is 50/50 do you think he’d be stressing like this about leaving you?

Oh well he’ll figure it out- he always cops out because you are there.

Did you go?