6 year old suddenly rude to grandparents

[NorthSouth25]

Hello. Hope someone can offer some advice. My parents are visiting (they live at the other end of the country so we only see them once every few weeks). They adore my daughter who is 6 (7 in 2 months time).

She is their only grandchild and they are constantly getting her little treats, sending parcels for her with magazines and little lego toys, and when they arrived they had gotten her Harry Potter goodies. She muttered 'thanks' then seemed a bit offish.

She is usually all over them when they see each other but this time she is shy, clingy with me, refusing to give out cuddles etc and just wants me instead.

She doesn't like being the centre of attention and they do make a fuss of her but it breaks my heart (and theirs too no doubt) to see her being so disinterested / rude. Especially as they have made the long journey and are an amazing help with the school run and childcare.

Any advice? Thanks so much.

It is difficult as a grandparent to go from having them all over you to playing it cool. I've had this conversation with my mother... she says she's making the most of my little DC thinking she's wonderful now because they'll grow up and start to see the flaws .

It sounds like part of it is expectation management and of course it's tougher for grandparents who don't see their gc regularly since the changes can come as a bit of a shock.

Hi @Peach1886 - yes this is just like my daughter... you're right it is hard to adjust to their different life stages xx

Thanks @Goldbar it's so nice to know I'm not the only one!