help, I cant train my 33 month old daughter !!

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, I am pulling my hair out trying to potty train my 33 month old daughter. She has no interest what so ever in using the toilet or potty. She likes wearing nappies. She never cried to be changed as a baby and even now she never wants to be changed even after a no 2. She used to wear cloth nappies but now she's at nursery she's in pull ups, because that's what they have to wear. I've tried leting her just be wet in knickers but she just dosn't mind it. I don't realy want to do that as she sits on the chairs, carpet ect. Any advice welcomed.

She's not yet 3, so no need to start worrying. If she still shows no concern over having a dirty nappy at 3 1/2, maybe you could start worrying a little bit

my little boy waS JUST like that- used to be in cloth, never minded having wet or dirty nappy, never asked to go, would scream when i tried to sit him on the potty etc. Anyway in the summer when he was 2.4 I decided just to go for it, took him out of nappies. The first week was hard work, I had to take him to the toilet all the time and it was pot luck whether he would do anything or not. He never told me he needed, I had to ask constantly and he never did a poo. However after about 2 weeks he was asking to do wee wees on the toilet and beginning to do poos and after 3 weeks he was asking for both and having fewer accidents. I always used pull ups for going out places but he would usually keep them dry and use a toilet when we were out.
Obviously he got a special treat if he managed to use the toilet i.e. some chocolate. He got more for poos and more for telling me he needed in advance!
Also at first he did cry everytime I took him to the toilet but once he started doing a wee and getting a reward he got much better. I really had my doubts as to whether I had done the right thing as it was very hard at first but here we are 3 months on and I am delighted. We were out all afternoon shopping today and he refused to wear a pull up, he asked to go to the toilet when we were in a cafe, did a wee and was dry when we got home, well worth a few weeks of hard work and accidents I'd say.

She isn't even 3 yet! Personally I don't think you need to get stressed about it yet. Wait another month or so and try again. She obviously isn't ready...

its still early yet. Dont stress yourself out over it. It will click when the time is right

Have you considered inviting older little girls to play? I mean ones that are toilet trained? Usually the younger one wants to copy everything the older ones do and that includes using the toilet.

It worked very well with mine.

It's entirely normal for a 33 month old not to be ready for potty training. Some are, some aren't. People whose children were ready will attribute the success to something they did - their 'method'. Which is a very human response. But actually, if your child ain't ready, there is nothing you can do to force it.

So I'd say don't get stressed about it, just leave it for a while and try again later.

she sounds just like my dd1, who eventually became potty trained just before her 3rd birhtday. dd2 was even later, she just managed before her 4th

Thanks everyone, that's very reasuring. I think because she is very tall for her age, she looks as though she shouldn't be in them. The nursery teacher said that if I wanted to just go for it and put her in knickers then she would be willing to keep changing her through out the day. I think I'll wait untill after Christmas and give it another go. Her best friend at nursery is trained, so I think some play dates are in order.

Just wanted to add a bit more reassurance to you - was at exactly the same point with dd at 33 months - tried a few times, what a disaster. I was despairing - you feel like everyone's child but yours is out of nappies! Then about a month after turning 3 she effectively decided to use the toilet herself and with occasional accidents managed it within a week. I think the answer is to stick at it and let them decide when they're ready. Still, we haven't cracked night times yet!!!

My dd3 was like that at 33 months, she had no interest but we tried to train her because nursery and so on expected it. she had lots of accidents and suddenly got the hang of it at 3yr 3 months. Which was far older than my other two dds had been - dd1 was average, dd2 was young, but still it's quite normal I think.